i have a friend of mine named "amanda" she's my friend, we talk on the internet "messenger msn" all the time, i told her that i love her more than a friend and she says that she loves me too but she didn't say if it as more than a friend or not. i can't get her out of my mind, she's always there, i'm always thinking of her, writing about her, looking at her pictures, and telling her that i love her all the time(when i get the chance), but she always get me sad, everytime we talk something unusual has to happen, like if i ask her to send me a picture she says NO!, if i ask her to go on webcam she says NO, she doesn't even want to give me the phone # of her house to call her (but i have the # of her cellphone) but everytime i want to call her by phone she doesn't have "minutes" i think that's an excuse. she be telling me that i'm two-faced i don't know what she means by that but i know i'm not what she says i am. what should i do? i really need help with this because it's killin me.
2007-01-02 00:28:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is that you're actually portraying yourself as someone that's too needy and lacking attention. You're coming too strong to her and, she might be freaking out. You want to get her to think "hey, this guy is cool...he has a life and I'm lucky that he let me be a part of it" instead of "this guy is a freakin' psycho, he must be a pervert or something I never want to be near him".
If you really want to show her that you actually have a life, quit the i love you's and don't be all over her all the time. Understand that you're worth the same, if not more, than her, and let her understand your value. If you don't, she'll treat you like crap, as she has been doing. As paradoxical as it sounds, the more you let her go, the closer she's going to stay to you.
Don't give up on her just yet...give her a chance to see what a wonderful guy you are. And if she still doesn't like you...the world has over 3 billion girls...you just have to go out, and meet another one prettier, smarter, and better than this particular one.
Good luck!
2007-01-02 00:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Emmanuel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't normally answer this kind of question, but i was once in your situation a few years ago. The long, short, medium and tall answer of it is SHE ISN'T STTRACTED TO YOU! May seem harsh but what woman in the right mind is attracted to a guy who is "nice" all the time and wants to worship her like a godess? You might aswell cut off your balls put them in a clear plastic bag and send them to her as a trophy. I've been there and theres never any true happiness because your always worrying about "something bad may go wrong" it will be hard but quit talking to her so much, delete her number, and if she asks why you aren't talking to her so much just say you have other things to do. Don't be horrible and mean to her, she hasn't done anything wrong, but just act on her feelings, and the most she will be feeling for you is abit of pitty, and affection, but affection isn't attraction. Write me an email if you want more info.
2007-01-02 08:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to change your stalker mentality. If you keep saying I love you to someone you don't know then she has reason to believe that you are an idiot.
Sometimes it doesn't pay to be polite. I think Amanda's finding that out the hard way.
Idiots like you make it hard for real people who try internet dating. You are what every woman is afraid of meeting on the internet.
Give Amanda a break and stop calling so she won't have to change her cell phone number.
2007-01-02 09:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not really in love with this person, but most likely infatuated with what you perceive her to be, since you've never even met her or talked to her in person!
You have a fantasy going on about her, when she could actually be a "he" and nothing at all what you think from online conversations.
Log off the Internet and get busy doing something in real life.
Read a book, pursue a hobby, concentrate on your education and future and forget this online fantasy person.
How can you love someone sight-unseen?
Move on and chalk it up to experience.
Live life off the computer.
Life's far too short to waste your time pursuing some online fantasy.
2007-01-02 08:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like this is not a true picture of Amanda, and she is freaking because you want to take it to another level. Maybe it would be better to seek out real women instead of someone you met on line.
2007-01-02 08:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you buy her a nice gift. Let me make a suggestion. How about some Stetson's Cologne
or tickets to Bulls Basketball Game
Free tour to the Rock Hudson Memorial
R we there yet?????????????
2007-01-02 08:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that she thinks you're lying about your age and everything. Or she could be lying about hers and that's why she doesn't want to talk. If she doesn't trust you or won't tell you the truth, she's really not worth it.
2007-01-02 08:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by buffy132008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever talked with her on the phone, if not. How do you know she isn't really a he.
People play all kind of sick games on the net, be careful.
2007-01-02 08:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
come on this is life not Alice in Wonderland.Stop acting like this is really a relationship and find your self a person that lives and breathes and allows you to visit.
2007-01-02 08:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um shes too immature to have an online relationship she prolly thinks ur a serial killer or something so ya just give up on her maybe still stay friends but give up on the relationship aspect
2007-01-02 08:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋