I have twin daughters and they are 9 mos old. Sometimes when I am tired and they are fighting sleep I will just take them to my bed and let them fall asleep in a couple of minutes I will put them in their crib. this just really save me some time of the fighting sleep game. So will this come back to bite me later when the girls are older?
2007-01-02 00:19:21 · 16 answers · asked by renee25 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you are a wonderful mother for comforting your babies. I do the same thing with our 6month old. especially for day time naps. I did the same with my older son until he was about 4 and then he learned he had to go to bed by himself in his bed. We never had any problems with him.
2007-01-02 00:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As whijess03 said they will get used to the comfort. But isn't that EXACTLY what we are supposed to be providing for our babies? Our son sleeps in our bed at night and in either his crib or on the couch next to me for naps. When it is time for him to move to his own bed then it will happen. I never let my 12 year old sleep in my bed when she was a baby because others told me it was a bad idea. We both missed out on so much because of that :( You need to do what you feel your children need. If they were to do well sleeping on their own then great! If not and they need comforted to sleep then by all means do that too! As for havign alone time, well when we become parents that's just something we either give up for a few months or else we find a babysitter for a few hours.
2007-01-02 00:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Betsy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl, do what works best for you. My daughter is 10 mos old and sometimes she sleeps with me, and other nights she sleeps in her bed. I too hate the fighting sleep game, and have chosen the method that works best for my family. As a result, my daughter goes to sleep very quickly and with no fuss. I've long since gotten over the "you're going to ruin her" conversations, and I suggest you do the same. You've got two little ones to contend with and that in itself is exhausting, no need to create a battle when it isn't even necessary.
Happy sleeping!
2007-01-02 03:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Clueless Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was told when I had my son not to do that. What happens is that your girls will eventually get used to it and you will soon never be able to get the chance of putting them in the crib. They get used to the comfort of sleeping next to the parent and the comfort of the bed. It also starts the reaction of the child feeling safe and soon it may lead to your personal time "alone time" being very minimal to none. Your alone time will be cut down to being in the bathroom and you may have 2 little ones crying and banging at the door for mommy and daddy to come out . I hope this helps.
2007-01-02 00:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by whijess03 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's not a good idea just because they will get used to sleep there and later they may be unable to fall asleep without your presence.They have to learn how to comfort themselves and fall asleep without you beside them.That will be a good lesson for their life later.What if you and your husband are in a private and your daughter(when they are 3-4 years old) come in the room because they want to sleep with you?
Asure them they will be able to fall asleep in their crib and just leave the room(after the fairy-tale and the hugs and kisses).
2007-01-02 01:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Livia 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
have u tryed holding your an rock them to sleep. or wen u get them to sleep try to make up a list so u can give the twins time to bound on more than one leave that may help them learn get a long a lil better an learn not to fight as much.....
2007-01-02 00:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Daisuke niwa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont see anything wrong with laying with them for a little while till they fall asleep! Its scary for a little kid to be in a room alone without mommy! when they are like 2 I think you should try to do the going to bed thing alone. Good luck!
2007-01-02 00:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm sure it' much harder work with two of them but after 7mos I stopped doing that kind of thing with my daughter and if she wouldn't sleep at night time we did controlled crying. They do need to start learning to fall asleep by themselves otherwise they will get used to you being there and you probably will have to continue to be there for them to go to sleep. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 00:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Suzanne S 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I was a baby my parents did that to me too, I did sleep with them a bit when i was scared when i was older but those are the times i felt the most safe and protected.
2007-01-02 00:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had to do that with my son for a while but he did eventually learn to fall asleep on his own. He is now 15months old. It should all come good eventually. Do what works best for you and your children.
2007-01-02 00:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋