2007-01-02 00:17:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
yes I love my mother and anyone who pretends to be American
2007-01-02 10:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never. First of all, it means that without them you can't be happy and you need to accept responsibility for your own happiness in order to lead a mentally stable and successful life. It's basic personal independance...
Secondly, to rely on someone else for happiness is a HUGE burden to place on that other person. It's a weight that can be crushing at times.
It's fine to find a relationship where you can be "interdependent" with another person, but not until you are capable of being enough of a person for yourself... and if you don't feel fulfilled on your own, there's not enough of a person inside you to be giving a huge chunk of it to someone else.
If you rely on someone else for happiness, you are walking around with a huge hole in you if that person isn't there. I know it seems romantic... to be that stuck on someone... but it's not practical or emotionally safe for you. And it can kill a relationship to put that sort of pressure onto the other person.
2007-01-02 00:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! The fact is YOU are responsible for yourself and that includes your happiness. It is unfair to rely on someone else for your happiness.
2007-01-02 00:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it unacceptable, honey, it's also pointless. Despite people's best intentions, they can't be there for you all the time, they can't always say and do the right things, they can't be the perfect person, and it's not fair to ask that of them, just as nobody should ask that of you.
You are the only person you can rely on, you're the only one who's always there when you need you. I'm working very hard on myself at the moment to become exactly the person I need to be. Like the saying goes, "Be your own best friend."
2007-01-02 00:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is acceptable but it is misguided and foolish. Happiness comes from the person who will be with you for the rest of your life. Regardless of who you are with, where you live, where you go. This person will ALWAYS be present.
That person is you. I suggest you rely on them for happiness.
2007-01-02 00:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its acceptable yes. but you can not rely on others to make you happy or you are likely to lead a miserable existance. its just how things work. live your life depending on yourself no one else.
2007-01-02 00:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible but, not acceptable. If you are not happy from within, you need to sit down and ask yourself what that person does to make you so "happy". Then try to find those things in yourself.
2007-01-02 00:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better to rely on yourself.
Other people can share in your happiness but not create it for you.
2007-01-02 00:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think if you make yourself happy, how can you make someone else happy. People obviously play a big role in your happiness but you cant keep them responsible for it. Cause if you end up being unhappy you will blame them, when actually you are the one to blame
2007-01-02 00:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's a moral issue, then I suppose it's acceptable; however, it seems to me that it's simply unwise, and not generally truly possible. We are all selfish creatures to some degree, and the only person on whom you can ever truly count for your happiness is yourself.
2007-01-02 00:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be acceptable for you or that other person but you are putting a lot of responsibility on that person - they are only human and humans by nature make mistakes, so be aware you may be heading for upset. to rely on yourself is number one priority.
2007-01-02 03:42:15 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋