Okey here it goes,
im trying to get with this one girl i like ive liked her for a little over a year but have kept silent (but i know for a fact that she always knew i liked her). beacuse she has been with her bf now ex boyfriend but he keeps on talking to her wanting to get back together and she doesnt but at times thinks about giving him a 3rd chance (yes 3rd not 2nd) but me and her have been talking pretty much everyday for a little over a month and her friends say " give him(me) a chance he is right for you" but she says she doesnt want to or is afraid to because it would start tension between me her and her ex but at the same time she says she likes me so what should i do to ease her mind? beat his ***?? because i really want to be with her!!! im thinkin i should just go and ask her anyway when i feel the time is right the worst that can happen is being told no.
please no bullshit answers
2007-01-01 23:46:18 · 16 answers · asked by The kid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u r about to do the right thing.u shouldn't trust any middle person in this matter.u've to deal by urself.jus do it dude!! ALL THE BEST!!
2007-01-01 23:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by nisha_rafeek 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U really seem very desperate. She likes you thats the biggest point, ask her out go out together, send sweet sms talk with her on the phone, share your sad stories. Try to look cute and smart dont try to act like high school gangs. Smile all the time. At first say her that you love her but if she says NO then say her we cud be friends. Dont just turn back. Smile all the time, when u talk always look at her eyes. Discuss about her interest, give her some candys every time u see her in such a manner that you bought candys for urself which ur now sharing. Now if these tips works say thanks.
2007-01-01 23:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Myth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say ask her out. If she says no well then pick your head up and go find someone else to like. ya I know it's not that easy. But you are only young once and having the courage now even if you get turned down will help you out when your older. Girls like guys with tons of confidence and nows the time to work on that. Just don't stutter or show you're nervous. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 23:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give the girl some time to figure out what she wants to do. And don't pressure her to rush into something. You might come off as a bully.
The whole tension excuse is just that, an excuse. A girl needs time between relationships.
2007-01-01 23:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by night_lilly66 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some balls and go for it! You never will know unless you try. And if she says no at least you will have planted that seed in her mind and it will be out in the open. Don't look desperate, go on and keep your eyes open. If she sees that you are interested and want to go out with her but are still trying to date it makes you more desireable. Women like the thrill of the hunt as much as a man does. Good luck and remember you never will know until you ask!
2007-01-01 23:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nurse Betty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give no intrest, try to act like u dont need her . i have been in that situaltion b4.
girls hate it when guys r dying for them, they just want to tell the guy, "GET A LIFE"
but she is ur friend, she would never say such a thing.
act cool with her, and dont show alot of intrest. when she has problems help her out, even if its her ex bf, talk to her, help her get back with him. then she is going to realize even though u love her u r helping her get back with her ex. comfort her.
that way i am sure it will work and if it didnt then she is not the right girl for u.
plus she does not know what she wants. if she wanted u she would have told u. believe me girls cant keep secrets for long.
she knows u like her then dont go telling her again.
let her first get over the other relationship then u enter in
good luck, hope i helped
2007-01-02 00:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by sara z 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beating the crap out of him is going to make matters WORSE so don't do it.
Just ask her out and take her somewhere great, where you both can have fun and unwind and get to know each other. If she has a good time, then great. but if for whatever reason it doesn't work out, then do what someone else here has mentioned, and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea darl! good luck!
2007-01-02 00:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you really like this girl but please don't get into any fights with the ex because then you would look just as bad as him....and this might sound stupid but then if she doesn't want to cause any tension between you and her ex maybe the both of you should go out in secret and see how it works out
2007-01-01 23:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by W H I T E [ s k y * ] 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is her ex your buddy? if he is, this makes the situation trickier. in this case, make sure you give some time for her ex to cool off, and ask him if you could date her, or he might think you're ruining his relationship. if not, i think you ought to also give her some time to really re-think her priorities; sometimes couples break up over the most minor things and not having one another would make them realise how much they miss and need each other, and then get back together. by giving her time, it is also beneficial for you, as a girl is at her most vulnerable when she just got out of a relationship, and she may not be at her most rational- meaning, she may jump into another relationship to get over her grief without thinking truly if she wants to commit. with time, she could be sure about what she wants, and this would ensure that she isn't 'using' you to get over her grief. hope this helps, and all the best! :)
and please don't use force in such a situation, use it only when your girl (or any girl) is being bullied, picked on, or taken liberty on (like being extorted for money by bullies or being erm, molested. sorry i know this sounds crude) cos in such situation, you're protecting her.
2007-01-01 23:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're right, the worst she could do is say no, but, and i'm not saying this to mean, but rather to be honest, that she may have already said no by giving you reasons why it won't work. she may not want to hurt your feelings or she may be really hung up on her ex and not want to admit that she wants someone she knows is bad for even though she has a better alternative. having said that, go for it, just don't let her use you whlie she figures stuff out. girls tend to that without even realizing it.
2007-01-01 23:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by mudd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i had the same problem a couple months ago her boyfriend left her and was begging her to give him another chance after he came back but what i did to make that change was i told her that he aint right for u, u deserve someone better who will make u happy and wont hurt you, after i told her that i asked her look i would really love it if u give me 1 chance to be with u and show u and she did and its been great ever since, just be honest with her and tell her what u feel and to give u a chance thats all hope this realy helps.
2007-01-01 23:53:01 · answer #11 · answered by Chris M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋