My girlfriend of 3 weeks forgot my New Years Day birthday! What should I do?! She's out of state right now and won't be back to campus until Friday (we go to college together). I ended up calling her 1/1/07 at 9:00PM, and after like 5 seconds of silence and an unmistakable "oh sh!t," she wished me a happy birthday but didn't apologize for obviously forgetting. We chitchatted for about 15 more minutes before hanging up, my voice was probably quite incredulous the entire time.
I feel like I want to just walk away from her. Is this a proper reaction? Should I even bother to continue such a relationship? How interested could she possibly be for me if she forgets my New Years Day birthday? I mean how hard is that for someone to forget?
I still have something for her for Christmas that I was going to give her after she comes back to campus (we had planned to exchange gifts then). But now I really don't feel like giving her anything.
I turned 22 yesterday, by the way.
2007-01-01 23:39:12 · 17 answers · asked by jeff85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
3 weeks is time TOGETHER, not including time while away. So before Christmas weekend.
2007-01-01 23:46:39 · update #1
Also, she was well aware that my birthday is 1/1 as early as 4 months ago and as late as mid-December.
2007-01-02 00:35:14 · update #2
Dude, don't listen to some of the above idiotic posters who are accusing you of overreacting.
Your birthday is NEW YEAR'S DAY. Anyone who cares about you would not forget that.
A 3-weeks relationship is PLENTY long to remember someone's upcoming birthday. You guys aren't like absent-minded 13 year olds, but educated adults with planners and calendars.
Unless one of her family members died over winter break or she got into an accident or became sick, you should just dump her. Life is too short to be stressing over someone who is so insensitive as to forget your birthday and then fail to apologize for it.
I feel for you bro. Happy birthday.
2007-01-01 23:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by naus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all. The holidays are the worst time to date. It's a time of transition. You're with your families and possibly ex's. It's also a time when new couples do NOT exchange gifts because you don't know how strongly the other person feels.
You have the unfortunate place of being born during the holdays. It's the worst. But dating for three weeks is a short time.
You can't expect full girlfriend treatment when you're only in dating mode. You should have told her early in Dec. So she could plan.
Don't dump her. The relationship's new. You may be overreacting a bit. The holidays are a rough time dating wise, but she'll make it up to you, surely.
2007-01-01 23:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by L. F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. Happy belated birthday though. Yeah, you have the right to be angry because you are in a relationship with someone who knew when your birthday was. A simple call would have done. Or maybe surprising you by mail. Yeah people forget things but this is one beyond explanation. She could have programmed it in her cell. It is like this....... ladies and gentlemen don't expect nothing if you are not giving anything. Guys want recognition and gifts too. This is a two way street. This scenario makes me question her attachment to you. I personally make sure my significant other gets his stuff whether I have to Priority mail it or not. I even e-mail or text message to cover grounds to let him know I love him and something special is in the mail. Just imagine if her birthday was New Year's and you forgot to call, she would probably beat you with a better reaction.
2007-01-02 01:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by narcisscus24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite easy to forget a birthday when a relationship is so new. If you are making a big deal out of this and considering ending the relationship, then i would say it's you that have the major problem here.
She apologized before you mentioned it on the phone, therefore she had been thinking about it while she's been away.
My advice is grow up quit being a baby cause birthdays aren't all that goddamned important to guys that are mature.
2007-01-01 23:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices, am I right?
1) To forget her
2) To forget her mistakes and continue to love her as much as you did
Here, I am not clear how "serious" is your feeling towards her. However, if I were you and I found myself in that situation; BUT the "doer" is the girl whom I really love, I will probably forget her mistake and regard it as her carelessness. I will still give her the present that I had prepared.
Anyway, how long have you both known each others?
If three weeks, then I think it is understandable for her to forget your birthday. But, if you have been good friends for years and she forgets it, there might be a bit of problem..
If you love her, forgive her. But still, I think she should say "sorry"; but maybe she is in a hurry something?
2007-01-01 23:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, lighten up! It's only been 3 weeks and believe it or not, not everyone sets out to forget or intentionally hurt others. Sounds like a reasonable and plausible excuse to me although, of course I would be slightly offended, just try and put it behind you.
It is a hectic time of year anyway............having one more thing to remember and celebrate on top of Christmas and NY stretches the best of us.
2007-01-01 23:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think being a pothead is an excuse to forget a birthday. Chronic marijuana use effects short term memory. And this isn't about short term memory, so he just ****** up and wants an easy excuse.
2016-03-29 04:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen.. if she forgot ur bd.. you have a right to be upset.. but dont stretch that right too far.. give her a chance to explain and tell her you were upset. she cud forget amid all the New year craziness.. I understand she shud not have... but i hope she does deserve a chance.. if she has been negligent all along.. thats another thing.. but if this was the only time she was careless then dont go overboard and do something rash.. instead be calm and mature abt it..
2007-01-01 23:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's only been 3 weeks, and sometimes people DO forget things. But, since she obviously didn't even apologize, sounds like she really doesn't care.
2007-01-01 23:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hrm.. its probably easy to forget a bday with someone you've only dated 3 weeks..
if you bug her about this you can never ever forget another date for the rest of your life together
2007-01-01 23:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋