I went on a few date with this guy,he makes a lot more than I do so I never volunteered to pay. But now I feel maybe I should?cuz I don't want him to think bad of me....but I really can't afford those expensive dinners though...
What do you think I should do?
2007-01-01 23:37:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Invite him to dinner at a place you can afford, or make dinner for him, or prepare a picnic lunch somewhere - the idea is to show that you care, not your financial status.
2007-01-01 23:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he makes 5 times more than you do, then money is less of a concern to him than to a person who makes five times less money than him. You paying for it is probably not even a concern to him at all. I can understand where you might be coming from, but its most likely not even a deal because of his income and especially if he knows how much you make. You may have to pay for some of the dinners, but he will most for sure being paying for most of the dinners. Like 95% atleast. Any guy in the past that expected you to pay, probably wasn't making too great of a income him self . And he probably won't think bad of you considering him knowing your income unless you didn't tell him your income. Then that might be different.
2007-01-02 07:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Michaelangleo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to go halves or something. The guy might be resentful if you never offer to pay. On the other hand, he might be ok with the current arrangement. Either way, offering won't do any harm.
edit: Curious1usa's idea of cooking for him is a very good suggestion. It means you can treat him without having to fork out money you can't afford
2007-01-02 07:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both made the same amount of money would you have offered sooner? Take him someplace that you like to go which is probably someplace you can afford, right? You obviously want to do the right thing, otherwise you wouldn't have asked. Doing the right thing or being considerate or polite doesn't matter how much either of you make, it matters because it is how you act.
2007-01-02 07:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should, because I don't think it really matters if your date is even making 10 times your money it is always said everywhere the guy pays for the lady's food/drink that is a gentle men and girls really appreciate that but you could really act or try to pay.
2007-01-02 07:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad! Generally the person doing the iniviting pays for the date - that way when you invite him out just invite him to places you can afford. He knows you earn much less doesnt he - so he wont hold it against you. Hope that helps!
2007-01-02 07:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask him out then you should pay. You shouldn't have to go some where expensive to make him happy. If he loves you he'd be glad to go to McDonald's with you. If he really really loves you he'll insist you never pay for a date.
Pick some inexpensive activity you both like, and pick up the tab
2007-01-02 07:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I invite someone out then I expect to pay. That includes the taxi home if she doesnt want to see me again. (not tested yet Im glad to say).
Call me male chauvanist but I expect to pay anyway. Show me a girl that doesnt like to wined, dined and spoilt a little and I will show you a girl I wont be asking out.
If I cant send her home feeling like a princess then Ive failed.
The girl pays? The guys a tightwad.
2007-01-02 07:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only if you make the date and choose the restaurant and do the driving.But it would not hurt to ask him how he feels about you doing it.Personally I'd be embarrased,and feel like I may have said or done something to make you feel obligated or worry about who's paying whatever.If I ask someone to go somewhere(male or female),I expect to be the one to pay.
2007-01-02 08:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Texecan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could always cook him a nice meal at home or go to a restaurant that you can afford... If he likes being with you he won't care where you go.
2007-01-02 07:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by silsa1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋