I have been doing a lot of soul searching on this one. Over one year ago my GF's sister's boyfriend got drunk and tore up her house, aimed a loaded gun at her, and threatened her 5 year old who was sent running down the block to the neighbors, all while she was pregnant with his child. He was arrested and thrown in jail the whole time claiming he could not remember his behavior. Two weeks passed and she pleading in court for his release. She was lonely without him and she still wanted to "make it work".
Last week he got drunk again and had another episode. Relatives were visiting and he tried to walk in one one of them in the shower. When my GF's sister called him out on his crazy behavior he got enraged and again threatened the life of her now 6 year old son and denounced her now one year old as his. She stayed with me for two days and then came running back to him. This man is on anti psychotics and continues to drink with them. I am truly afraid for the children.
2007-01-01 23:28:51 · 16 answers · asked by devisissy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Should I call DSHS and report his breaking parole with his drinking and his last episode. Or should I just stay out of it all together and pray he stops drinking and does not harm the children.
2007-01-01 23:30:29 · update #1
If this woman wanted help she would have a long time ago. I understand your concern, but, you cannot help someone who does not want to be helped. Take a step back and look at the situation. If she's still there, that's where she wants to be. As far as her children goes, mind your business. You are never to interfere with someone elses personal problems especially if it concerns children. That would only further complicate things. Keep soul searching and you will see that the best place for you is from the outside looking in, not in the middle.
2007-01-01 23:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you do and it should have been done sooner! These children cannot protect themselves, their mother is unable and their father is their danger so it is up to a 3rd party to protect them.
Even if they are unable to 'do' anything you need to call and get this family into the system as it were. Make CPS or DCFS aware of what is going on so that the next time this happens they can help
Good luck, HTH
*****after your update*****
Yes, call NOW! and let the police know about the parole violation. If they can't help you, they will give you contact info for a person that can.
2007-01-01 23:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to call children services and also talk to the district attorney in the county you are from, they can start a juvenile case, this needs to be done, she is putting her kids lives at risk to stay with this man which is telling me she thinks more of him than she does her children. They can make it so that he cannot be around them, she is neglecting her children. I recently learned that a woman in a domestic violence situation can lose her children for neglect. They look at it as if there is a domestic situation no one is caring for the children at that moment so they call it neglect (just happened to a friend) so, get her some help before she loses her children for good.
2007-01-01 23:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should def call someone. Get help, tell them of his crazy behavior and all the threats he made towards your friends sister and her children. She may be mad at u at first but don't worry about it b/c she'll def thank u later. She and her kids are in great danger and i think u waited long enough. This guy's a nut. I think ur doing the right thing, go for it and don't be scared, just keep on thinking of those kids and their safety!!! Good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-01-01 23:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the children's sake, please make that phone call today. The mother obviously puts herself before the safety of her children. As many people as possible need to know of the dangers the children face daily. Just maybe, during the investigation, the mother will become a little more aware of where she is and some of her options.
2007-01-01 23:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it somewhat is nice sufficient reason to furnish your sister and her husband a real good slap. How dare her husband dictate no count number in the journey that your sister is permitted to be your bridesmaid. His jealousy is his own issue & ought to through no skill be related on your plans to marry your companion. the respond isn't any, it somewhat isn't any longer reason sufficient. Your sister desires to stand up to her jealous husband and tell her which you're her sister and he or she will have the skill to be your bridesmaid with the aid of fact it is your special day. i could have punched your brother in regulation through now he appears like a pig. Your companion went out some situations with your sister yet has been with you for 6 years(?) and is making plans to marry YOU and spend something of his life with YOU. i'm distinctly confident it somewhat is something you could recover from it somewhat isn't any longer a huge deal. on the different hand in case you're heavily pondering ending your engagement over something that fairly occurred 6 years in the past then possibly your no longer cut back out for marriage to this individual.
2016-11-25 22:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dob him in plain and simple she keeps taking and wanting him back because she is scared of him and what he will do when he gets out and the fact she will be on her own raising 2 kids,hes a sicko and needs help and he wont get it out here if you do nothing and he kills her or the kids or all of them you will never forgive yourself ,but make sure you and your gf are there to help pick up the pieces she will need it but when she is thinking straight she will be very greatfull that you helped out
2007-01-01 23:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by debbie anne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call someone, i would pick the cops , have them over your house and tell them the whole story as you know it, they will listen and will keep you out of the whole thing, when if something should happen you know you tryed
2007-01-01 23:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES u should call It is your moral responsibility to protect our future our children!!! If u can I would also call his probation officer & tell him why u called DSHS. Your Girlfriend needs to tell her sister to leave the looser
2007-01-01 23:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Dotr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what has kept you from calling already? get off the computer and on the phone. this guy is dangerous to the kids, if not your sister. the kids need protection.
2007-01-01 23:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋