My girlfriend and I are just barely young enough to be under our parents control, my mom doesnt like her and im not supposed to have anything to do with her, i love her to death and want to be with her and she feels the same for me. what should i do?
i've been with her eight months and 6 of those against my parents will
what do you think
2007-01-01 22:59:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your parents to mind their own business.
2007-01-01 23:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your parents to give her a second chance. But before you do is there something like piercings or the way she dresses that made them come to this conclusion ? Also has it made you act or do really dumb things to get you into trouble ? Or has your grades dropped. That would make a big decision on both parents part as well. I do know that by them keeping you apart is making you want to see her more and your probably doing everything you can to sneak around theirs backs to see her. I don't know you so I can't tell you what to do but I do know that when my parents did that I rebelled, as my daughter did when I did the same to her. I did learn though that you can't keep people apart, you need to let them learn why they met. Maybe if you asked them if their parents did that to them might open up a new disscussion to getting them to open up to you. They are more than likely afraid that she will become pregnant. Remember they were probably raised alot different then. Us old people have different ways, but I also am open to listening and trying to undertand now that I have raised my own. Make sure you have all of your defenses ready before you try to talk to them. Remember, be nice, don't yell, just be calm and nice.
2007-01-02 07:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by vicki p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people take longer to accept others. maybe sit down, have a chat with your mum and listen out to why she thinks that way. sometimes love could be blind us-- i'm not saying that you're blinded by love, but in the beginning of any new relationships, flaws tend to be overlooked. assure her that you would not blame her for anything she says and don't lose your temper ya. reason out with her if what she says is biased, and accept those that could be right, perhaps try to change your girl for the better discreetly. i don't suggest telling her what your mum said blatantly as she might develop a bad impression of your mum and that would complicate the matter. don't worry, parents always feel that no one is good enough for their children, it's a process that they will go through- to realise that their kids have grown up and its time they take charge of their lives. hope this helps and may things change for the better.. :)
2007-01-02 07:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has got to be a good reason your parents dont like her. Unless they are being quick to judge, or they feel they want you to focus on other things at the moment. Try to prove to your parents how you feel about this girl and ask them what they expect from you. Maybe if you meet their exceptations, things will go smoothly with the girlfriend
2007-01-02 07:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can deal with it in 2 ways,
1 stay with her
2 leave her
quite simple really...lol
if you go with one, you can drive a big hole in between you and you mom. you can stay with your gf and hopefully things will work out, but if they dont then youll have to repair your relationship with your mom. if you pick one then the best way to keep from that is to sit down with her and talk about it tell her how you feel and find out why she feels the way she does (if you have that kind of relationship already).
If you go with 2 you leave a girl who loves you and earn a few points with mom. if your planning on living at home past 18 with her chances are you should go with this one since she has just about every right to kick you out for anything she sees fit. if your gonna freeload, make peace at home.
Id try talking with mom first, then weigh my options if that doesnt work out. Love is a wonderful thing, but dont let it blind you
2007-01-02 07:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your own desicion your paretns cant decide on who you can go out with if you have strong feelings for her forget what your paretnts tell you and stick to what you want to do !
2007-01-02 07:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by pink_n_purfect1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents how you feel and let them know that they need to give her a chance.
2007-01-02 07:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't they like her and how old are you ? do you really care what they think about her anyway? if she is what you want keep on keepin on
2007-01-02 07:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait
2007-01-02 07:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by booge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strong attachment.....maybe they think you are gay......'
Parents just don't get it ..........
2007-01-02 07:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋