I'm in a love slump and I haven't had a boyfriend in two years. I've tried finding a good guy for me but everytime I fall short. What should I do? I mean its not like I'm not pretty or something.
2007-01-01 22:22:00 · 26 answers · asked by Barlow 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey there!
Look, I know how it feels, it took me almost 2 years after my previous relationship to find someone who I could actually talk to and feel he listens and cares. In the meantime I was dating and all I felt was disappointment over and over again.
There's no f*** way or strategy to use to find someone compatible, all I can tell you is be patient and take a long hard look inside of you to see what went wrong in the past so that you wont repeat it in the next relationship. When you're clear with yourself on what you do and don't want from a partner, you'll find that your choices will be much better.
In the meantime I have to tell you that being single isn't all that bad! You wont be single 4ever, so enjoy it now and be sure that you'll find the right person soon.
No worries, have fun!
2007-01-01 22:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by melita_krom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are looking. Love is a funny thing; it is elusive if you chase it, it will hunt you down if you run from it. Here's some free advice. Focus on knowing, respecting and loving yourself. That is not to become self-centered. Rather it is to know what you like and want out of life. To pursue that with passion. Be kind and gentle to yourself when you have problems or failures. Doing this it turns out will place you among like minded people and at the same time you appear VERY attractive to others. Lastly you never know who you are talking with. An old man or woman may have the future mate in their family or friend network that is perfect for you. Oh and by the way, there isn't just one person in this world that you are compaitble with, there are many, many. Good luck and know thyself.
2007-01-01 23:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the queue.. im gay and I cant find anyone either. I know men inside out, and strain to think of even 1 man that I have met, or know that is worth anything to me... not even the men in my family have my great respect! I find them to be unemotional, dishonest, sex hungry, unable to commit, out to have fun, selfish and calculating... they really do think with their *****, and basically as women u need all those things (and I do too).. I dont know what advice to give..I have tried churches, net, other countries, clubs, friends or friends, work colleagues, siblings friends, newspaper ads..... I had my detailed ad on over 50websites around the world... never found anyone that is worth my time. I have been lied to, cheated on, used, abused physically and emotionally, raped, stamped into the dirt, ignored, and treated as garbage by men..... and I would advise any woman who has the ability.. to become lesbian!!!! I wish I could be attracted to a woman's body.. it is my greatest wish not to be gay, cos Im petrified that I am gonna end up alone cos men are just wasting my time!!
I dont have advice.. except to forget men if possible, and do things u like, DONT look, as it makes u more anxious, more stressed and depressed, more worried etc and all that drives people away. Just learn to be comfortable on ur own (this was my new years resolution).. and dont search..someone will drop in when u least expect it... from somewhere.. and it will be worth it. Take care Ed.
2007-01-01 22:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart there is no Mr. Right. We are all human beings with flaws. We are all dealt certain cards in life. Your going to kiss alot of frogs before you find your prince. Stop going for the ¨hot guy¨. Give them not so cute guys a chance. They may just turn out to be better than you thought.
2007-01-01 22:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by krzylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just have 2 b a lil practical in your way of thinking. first of all u need to hav a list of traits tht u want ur Mr.Right to have. then rate the traits. for eg: someone may give a rating of 80% importance for aesthetic sense. Now tht u got an idea of wat u want, u can start re-assessing the scores. make sure u r nt being 2 stubborn to a point of being impractical about some particular trait. once u hav a n idea of wat u want in life, ull find several ways to accomplish those goals. all the best in ur search
2007-01-01 22:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Invisible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos you don't go out and get amongst it. Plenty of single guys around if u go down the local pub/club. Stop aiming for Mr. Right and have a good time, sooner or later he will come along, if u don't stop searching under every rock sooner or later u will just be searching and thats sad.......
2007-01-01 22:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Diz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the problme is ur looking for mr.right the thing is you don't look for him like ur looking 4something missing u just need 2live normal like any pretty gurl and just have fun then MR.right will come 2u or u'll just see him infront of U right over there , evry1 looking 4the right person , i found her .
2007-01-01 23:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by mohame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely because you tend to be attracted to the same type of guy over and over. Start going for a guy who is not your usual type and when you least expect it, you will find him. Also, you must be willing to compromise, men are about as perfect as women are.
2007-01-01 22:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying to hard? Maybe it's fate telling you that it's not the right time? Maybe guys see that you're insecure, hey, if you're asking that kind of question I'm assuming that you are a little inclined that way, it's also a sign of desperation...and maybe you seem that way to guys?
Relax my friend, continue to embrace your singledom, if you try to hard you'll end up falling.
2007-01-01 22:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by adastraperaspera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr Right's cousin Mr Right-Now is so much more fun than Mr Right.
2007-01-01 23:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋