I have cheated on my partner on our engagement night it meant nothing and dont remember much what shall i do?

Answer 1

You CHEATED!!
on your engagement night??? when you should have been with your FIANCE??
it meant nothing? ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT??
You DONT remember? OH COME ON .. who are you kidding!!

BLOODY tell your partner the truth!!
and if you dont, you will be walking into a marriage with a lie!!

Answer 2

So how did it come about? You got engaged, left your partner in a glow of happiness, and then went to a bar and picked someone up.... or rang an old f-buddy???

Why did you do that? Unless you understand why you did it then it is likely to happen again and again. Did you somehow feel 'trapped' and want to prove to yourself that you are not, even though you are engaged.

I feel you are starting this engagement in a very bad way. Yes it is really going to hurt your partner if you tell them the truth, but why should YOU know the truth and they not know. A relationship is supposed to be an equal partnership.

I think you had better confess, and let them see what they want to do.

Alternatively, don't confess but don't commit to marriage until you can see if you can be faithful but i truly dont think this is fair on your partner. I don't think i would want to marry someone who had cheated on the night we got engaged. That's a pretty low thing to do!

Answer 3

Can you live with your guilty conscience? Something tells me no because you are confessing this to a whole bunch of strangers. I would really think about the steps you are going to take towards marriage before you hurt both yourself and this other person.

If you can’t tell them now how will it be when you are married to them. Do you really want to carry around that guilt? If you want a strong marriage then I would be honest with them before you take that step. If your marriage is built on a lie then it will become an even greater lie.

Please do yourself a favour not to carry that guilt around because you could suffer with that if you don't get it off your chest. At least go for some marriage counselling or counselling before you take that big step.

Answer 4

oops....this only shows that you are human.It does however point to the fact that you should reconsider the whole engagement thing.....Who else knows? Will your partner find out...come on it could of been one of their friends if you don't remember much!!!!!
My advice would be to tell them...easy to say I know...lots of people say you should tell them or I would tell them ....but if the truth be known we dont always do. Until we get caught...if its easier be honest with your self ask your self if your doing the right thing for you.The engagement is just the beginning then you get married....this will always be in the back of your mind...and the worry of your partner finding out....so when you have decided if its what you want then if you have the guts confess.....good luck

Answer 5

That is so horrible. You get engaged because he or she is the love of your life and can't live without him or her. If you would even consider thinking about another guy or girl on your engagement night...you need to give the ring back and move on before you cause any more damage. and if you're the male WHAT WERE YOU THINKING? That's horrible making someone think that they are soon to have the happiest day of their life and then CHEAT on them a few hours later!!!! WOW, I just can't get over that!

Answer 6

I'm not going to critisize you for what you did, or call you names. Sure, I don't agree with it, but its done and you can't change it.
So, you have to be wo/man enough to step up and take responsibility for your actions. Marraige is a life-long, legally binding contract, and you need to be sure you're making the right decision. Obviously if you go off and do the dirty with someone other than who you're engaged to, you're either not making the right decision about you're life path, or if you are, you're not sure that you are.
Sit down and tell your fiance. S/he deserves to know. Give him/her the knowledge, so they can make the right decision. Its no longer in your hands.
Marriage is built on trust and communication. Tell him/her what you did. Sure, you may lose the trust, but, you can't have a relationship founded on a lie. Work your butt off to earn it back, and your relationship will be so much stronger for it.
Then..never do it again!!

Answer 7

Don't commit suicide or shoot your brains out. Those people are negative & shameless for saying that stuff. Do what your heart tells you. I personally would tell him all the details you remember and the reason why you don't remember everything. You can always try to work it out. If it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be. Keep that gut wrenching feeling you have always in mind in future relationships. If it does work out then congrats to you. Karma is a b***h so be honest.

Answer 8

are you a complete retard?what do you mean it meant nothing?to who didn't it mean nothing?your fiance?of course you used the little tiny piece of brains and balls to tell her.didn't you?well?
if you intended to marry her surely you have enough feelings for her to do the right thing and tell her so she can decide for herself what a
piece of s..t you really are?or was your plan to let her find out down the track when you do it again and again........
once a cheater always a cheater.if you lack enough morals to do it once your more than capable of doing anything,and your fiance deserves at least the respect of making a decision based on the truth.
PS.i agree we all make mistakes.but if you make a mistake fix it dont let someone else pay the penalty.

Answer 9

What chance does your marriage stand if you can't refrain on the night you were supposed to be promising to love your fiance forever.
To say it means nothing is a real smack in the mouth for your fiance, as you have risked everything for nothing!

You should be honest with your partner and hope they forgive you. I personally would dump you !

Answer 10

Wasn't it funny how most people assumed you were male!!!!!!!
If this had happened to me I would know that I wasn't ready to get married. I agree that you should confess but that will be very hard. People must realize it is going to devastate your fiance and it ain't a joke . Just remember that no matter what people say we have all made mistakes. May be not this particular one but mistakes none the less.