but how do i confront her? how can i say i found out?
2007-01-01 21:30:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest? how DID you find out?
2007-01-01 21:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make sure she's actually there for dating! The reason I say this is ... there are many sites online that are primarily known as dating sites, but are visitted by many people who are NOT looking for dating ... they are there for the forums, groups, etc. One example is POF (Plenty of Fish). While it's officially a dating site, it has thousands of members that are only members to interact in the forums, some of the most active forums on the internet.
So, before you decide to confront her, make sure you know the facts.
You could just ask her honestly why she's on that site, and judge her answer for yourself.
2007-01-02 05:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jaded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this could be tricky. What were YOU doing on the dating website?
Assuming that a friend saw her profile, then you just confront her with the information: "Honey, Jim was on a dating website the other day and saw that you have a profile. Could you tell me why that is, please?"
I cannot think of any good reasons for her to have a profile (unless she is looking for a third party to have a threesome with if this is something you guys are into).
Good luck!
2007-01-02 05:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The RIGHT thing to do is to be direct, bring it up and be honest about how you found out (snooping on the computer were we?!). Get it out in the open then you'll both know where you stand on the matter. The FUN thing to do has already been suggested - become a member and try to trap her!
2007-01-02 05:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask , if she lies then well thats a problem meaning " TRYING TO HIDE IT " so maybe shes been on thats site before she met you ? and just for fun is curious and goes back ? once in a while but , lying doesnt help you or her ? just ask her in person , tell the truth always , and youll be ok. good luck ,,,,,
2007-01-02 10:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by hottylee38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are upset at her for not being honest with you.
Practice what you preach -- be honest with her. Tell her exactly how you found out, how it made you feel, and what you plan on doing about it.
2007-01-02 05:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you make a fake ID on the same dating site, contact her and come on to her, see if she takes the bait. If she does, she is a very naughty girl.
2007-01-02 05:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are going to LIE about how you found out then you are no better than her, maybe you two deserve each other, two liars in the house
2007-01-02 05:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put an ad on the website and answer hers!! a guy did that on hot or not, it was classic
2007-01-02 05:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mayb u shud try being one of the member and at the final stage catch her red-handed..it will take lots of patience..but it is worthwhile...
2007-01-02 05:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by c s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if you found out because you're looking too.... maybe you shouldn't be dating, hmm?
2007-01-02 05:32:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋