I'll try to make it short... She has a relationship with my friend for the past month. I met her after she and my friend hooked up. He was away during the Xmas holidays, as were all my friends. I had to stay in the big town due to my job. We ended up going out together since i was all alone and we got along good together.
Its perfect. I never ever felt like this before. Its strange for me to speak and have her finish my sentences. Or listen to her speaking and know what she will say before she does. We think as one; we act as one; we have everything in common. I dont want to mess around my friend's relationship yet i know in my heart that me and her are soulmates-bound to be together. I also know that i am thinking with a clear head at the moment. I ve been through some very bad situations and i have learned to distinguish feelings from a simple crash... That is why i am lost...
So happy New Year to all and any advice would be welcome... Thank you...
2007-01-01 21:13:12 · 11 answers · asked by kaustikos1981 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok for those of you who just like to "answer" questions without first reading them:
I did not hit on the girl, i thought that much was clear. I say I found in her my other half. She does not know how i feel, and she will never learn as long as she is with my friend. That is the reason i am asking this in the first place.
Were I not to be thinking of my friend I would give it no second thought and try to steal her... That is not me... I simply sit back and dwell in my own world of shadows waiting until I know what I must do...
As for her... I really dont know how she feels... I could never tell how girls feel.. who can? I can tell that she feels connected to me, yet i dont know if it is in the same degree as I feel it.
Please if you are writing here only to degrade my situation, you definitely have missed my point.
There is nothing bad with falling in love... This is my sin..
There is sin in breaking your friend's relationship...
And this I have not and will not do.
Thank you
2007-01-02 00:20:58 · update #1
First...look up "friend" in the dictionary. Second, look again. Third, a 4 yr old could finish your sentences. Happy New Year!!
2007-01-01 21:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she feel the same way, she should end her relationship, then you 2 need to talk about this and decide what to do.
And I think that you have to talk to your friend, its a highly sensitive situation, but honesty is always the best path. In the long run you cant hide for your friend whats up, and you will hurt his feelings more if you have an affair with her, while they are together.
And finaly, this is not an uncommon situation, it happens all the time!
2007-01-01 21:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by toxisoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats more important to you
You can choose your friend............
Or you can choose the girl.............
Either way each person makes their own choice for their own reasons. I've seen it destroy the friendship of a couple of my mates, where at the same time other mates have done the same thing and now they are best of buddies again.
My opinion is if you and this girl are soul mates then there is nothing wrong with being a friend. That way you gain a friend and later down the track you haven't hurt any-ones feelings.
2007-01-01 21:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Diz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! All i will say is that if a guy can wait as long as he has been waiting to be with you, that exhibits you he's the single. I understand the different guy loves you only as lots however the only thank you to appreciate is that in case you spent a protracted time removed from him and notice if he strikes on and waits for you. yet come on, the guy you made an settlement with continues to be waiting in basic terms for you, no longer many adult adult males can try this. i think of he merits you better than the guy you're presently with.
2016-11-25 22:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. If she feels the same way then you can go ahead. Don't be too messy. Love is a gentle emotion, it is pure and selfless. By tact you can clear steer of your friend and you will have both your soul mate and your friend intact.
A warning : physical mates fight and make hell for their partners, the same is true of soul mates too. unless you don't take things for granted and work hard for understanding, soul mates also end up as disasters.
2007-01-01 21:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very sweet, but how does she feel about you?
A very similar thing happened to an ex of mine. He fell in love with his best friend's girl. They were totally honest with the guy about it. They guy totally understood and gave them his blessing. They even ended up getting married! So, if you really love her and she loves you, then you need to talk to your friend about it and explain everything.
HOWEVER, don't do anything physical with her until they are broken up and your friend is cool with everything.
2007-01-01 21:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geeee, with friends like you no wonder i tell people to go away
i wouldn't want you as a friend, i wouldn't be surprised if your so called friend beat the mess out of you for hitting on his girl
you have a simple infatuation and thats all, you went out as friends on one day and she showed you some sympathy and you are ready to trash your friendship over that
you have no honor
2007-01-01 21:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then follow the word called "sacrifice"! ur friend had come into ur life first! try finding another girl or date her sister if she has!check out on more info regarding all thises questions at http://valentinesday4all.blogspot.com
2007-01-01 21:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sean Carter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makre sure she remain your soulmate and soulmate only until they break off :D
2007-01-01 21:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Badmanfor3v3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose u shud talk to ur friend abt this and get things right
happy new year to you too buddy
2007-01-01 21:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by c s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋