I'm still meeting people that have mental illness's. The majority seem to lash out at me yelling swearing, off the wall accusations, or intentions of being with their boyfriends. The following day they act as if nothing happened, I told one girl, after several outbursts that if this continues I will not be able to accept and forgive again. She promised not to... but its continuous - at least once a month. She is nice most of the time and I feel sorry for her because I do understand her mental illness but it also hurts my heart that I can't do anything to help them. I'm just not sure what steps to take to have her stop this ironic behavior - it also embarasses me with my neighbors and they seem to lack respect for me because they hear the things she says and I continue talk with her. I've explained to my daughter about people with mental illness's because we're exposed to it. I'm trying to set a good example for my girl, that abuse is unacceptable. How can I help them not be like this?
2007-01-01 21:06:19 · 8 answers · asked by hot single mom 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I tolerate their behavior - but sometimes I just don't want to talk with them any more. What can I do to ease their pain?
2007-01-01 21:07:38 · update #1
Hi Hot Mom, if their behavior is effecting your family lifestyle, you should cease to continue any 'friendship' or personal communication. To be cordial would work out fine. Just nod your head hello, or if they try to talk with you just say your in a hurry. You are not a professional. Some illnesses escalate to a point where they can cause physical harm to you or your girl.
We should not encourage this form of illness. They need to know that this behavior is not acceptable in society and they need to control themselves.
If neighbors or others don't know the situation, they really have no right to judge so I wouldn't worry about what others are thinking.
2007-01-01 21:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by STAR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pleased that at least you know the root cause of the problem and therefore u are better placed to mange the siutation. As long as u know the mental disposition of the person you are dealing with you should be able to predict the likely outcome or at least not be surprized if the the unexpected happens. I therefore urge you to continue to be as kind as you are since the condition seems to be momentary or occasional as i seem to have picked it. At least you can talk over the past with the victim. If the condition is such that you can afford to pursuade the victim to see a psychologist i urge you to contact one for specific counselling.
2007-01-01 21:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Haswell A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as far as your daughter, you can explain to her that it is not really abuse if the person is ill and is not deliberately doing it.
I don't know how you feel about religion but I pray for help to forgive people like that.
However, you do not have to continually expose yourself to these type of people. I mean you do, if that is your job, but as far as in a social setting, it really is not safe.
I have the greatest sympathy for mentally ill people (I have suffered severe depression myself), but I do not allow them to "drag me down." You have to protect yourself from those that can hurt you physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am not talking about cutting off contact with a relative or loved one who is mentally ill, but as far as people you meet: just be kind, but don't get "sucked" into their illness.
Good luck to you. You sound like a very kind, giving person.
2007-01-01 21:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important concept here is that you've acknowledged & accepted the given : All females have chronic mental illness. That is the important 1st step toward better behavior. It is a key focus to not be in denial. Now, a key 2nd step is to never expect to be respected. you are female. A further step is to explain these facts to your daughter as best you can. THAT SETS A GOOD EXAMPLE.
2007-01-01 23:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by The kissman 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Best thing to do is tolerate their behaviour. Dont be outwitted with unforgivenss otherwise you suffer the consequence, that is miserable because of carrying ill feelings.dance with their music. if they show good to you, treat the same. at least you capitalized with the situation. get jesus as example. accused or confronted in the crowd, he tolerated the accuser and left them.
2007-01-01 21:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by wilma m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive all you want. But mental illness usually does not get too much better. I say get away. Sure it may not be their fault. It is not a rattlesnake's fault that he reflexively tries to bite me. That is why I don't have them around the house.
2007-01-01 21:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on how intense their illness is. if they are cognitively able to understand rules- then you can (on a cognitively appropriate level) explain to them what the rules are about behaving in a certain way.
If you are getting paid- you should have recieved training to handle difficult situations... I would look into that.
You need an outlet- yoga, meditation or something to relieve your frustrations
2007-01-01 21:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by z_oxy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seek psychiatrist or other mental professionals that can help them...you can personally help them by UNDERSTANDING them due to their situation...
2007-01-01 21:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Genesis E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋