ok theres this guy that i really like..but hes in another state..and he likes me too..but the problem is..i guess hes too desperate or horny or something...so he keeps trying to flirt with girls in his area..and even replied to some online ads posted by those horny type girls..to meet them and do stuff with them and all..and this made me TERRRIBLY DEPRESED after i found this out..cuz I REALLY LIKE HIM..and want him to jus be mine...and not do nething...but hes not into commitment rite now...and i know he likes me..and i think hes only trying to meet others cuz he thinks im flirting around with guys in my area..but the truth is i think i really love this guy...But i dont want to tell him as he dusnt want commitment..I want To change the way he is and make him stop being SO DESPERATE and messaging random girls and asking them for action...How can i change this thing in him? what DO I NEED TO DO? shud i tell him that I am not flirting or nething and see if he also stps? ITS KILLING ME!
2007-01-01 20:42:22 · 8 answers · asked by Har S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So basically my question is HOW DO I GET HIM TO STOP being soo desperate and mesSAGING random girls and asking for action? DO I NEED TO SHOW HIM SOME LOVE? what hes doing is really hurting me....or shud i just forget him?PLS HELP ME..
2007-01-01 20:43:28 · update #1
Forget him you cant make someone how you want them to be you have to take him as he is... he aint worth it
2007-01-01 20:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♠lAUGhTERZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some birds just can't be kept in a cage! I have friends that are completely content with one woman while others need a new woman every week! Sounds like the type that needs to be with different women on a regular basis.
2007-01-02 04:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bunz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down.Get busy w/ other things.When you are ok already you can start analyzing your emotions and actions.Writing your feelings in a journal can help too.
Actually with that kind of man, even let's say he loves you or away from you or merely trying to get your attention-HE IS NOT WORTH IT!
Open your mind!The truth will set you free!
No reason can justify for his wrong actions!
And man like that won't ever like to stay with a "pathetic"woman who is"at their mercy".They
want more challenges.If he knows you are so emotionally attached to him already(by your action they will know already even you don't tell them),he will lose interest or even get scared to
have real relationship with you!
So it's either forget about him or accept him as he is(but later on he might even get worse!)or
slow down!WAIT!
2007-01-02 05:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to change him. That is your problem, and that is exactly why there is no way that this relationship will work. You cannot change people, and if you want to be with him, you need to accept him as he is right now. To me, though, he doesn't sound like someone that you really want to be with anyways....
2007-01-02 04:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change anyone but yourself. Just a thought, you might want to tell him you really like and you want just you two. But , if he doesn't want that, than can you accept that? I think you deserve the best. Good Luck.
2007-01-02 04:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by CURTIS TERI C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...your description of the problem shows how much confused you are. You cannot even express yourself clearly. And this guy means business..he clearly is this sex starved stuoid guy who would say "I love you" and show interest in each female meeting his requirements of bust and butt. So please refrain from moving ahead, and find yourself a nice guy whose aim is to acheive something higher than sex !
2007-01-02 04:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Varun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amor de lejos es por pendejos. Long distance relationships don´t work. If he´s not into a committment right now, then you can´t change that. he´s not into it. Stop trying to change him.
2007-01-02 04:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by krzylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and describe what your worried about to him. so basically what you just descirbed in this question-tell him that.
2007-01-02 04:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by magdalena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋