If you're in this situation, how are you handling it?
2007-01-01 20:20:43 · 15 answers · asked by mx3baby 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you everyone for your answers.
2007-01-01 20:36:00 · update #1
Just an FYI. I am not practicing this. I am against favoritism! Thanks!
2007-01-02 07:29:11 · update #2
no one child always wants to feel less important!
2007-01-01 20:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes it does When my 1st daughter was born it was my mothers 1st grandchild so she really went crazy buying clothes toys whatever treating my oldest like gold then when my 2nd was born she didn't do anything all she said it could have been a boy so I tried taking over grandmother and mother role without realizing it I was doing more and showing more to the 2nd but mind you my mother was in my 1st daughters life constant but my 1st daughter still seen how I treated the 2nd it caused alot of problems between all of us when they became teenagers they were only 11 months apart and that didn't help matters none but now they are very close both are married and pregnant at the same time in which they planned together so it can be worked out.
2007-01-02 04:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by what gives 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does. Some of my family used to show great favortism to my oldest son and it caused lots of problems. My youngest child picked up on the differences at a very young age and it began to affect his total self image... it made him feel very inferior. So, I confronted those family members and politely explained that BOTH of my children were equal and that if they could not be impartial to them then I would resort to not allowing EITHER child to associate with them any longer. Suddenly, my point was realized and the favortism has since stopped. Good luck.
2007-01-02 04:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
People are emotional, so from one day to the next, you may be more in tune with one person than another. I have days my son and I are real close, and days, my daughter and I are. Sometimes I have more fun with one than the other, but it depends on our moods at the time. I love them thouh, equal. And , when you have more than one kids, it is important to always let them know, you love them all, for their strengths, and weaknesses. Kids are naturally competitive with eachother. So, it is not a good idea to make one feel like the king of the house, while the rest sit by wondering why mommy does not love them.
My foks had faves, and I was not one, and I remember me and my sisters hating eachother, because of feelings of jealosy that parental favoritism put in our hearts. If you want to raise a happy, loving family, with brothers and sisters that not only respect eachother, but you also for raising them fairly, do not play the best sibling game. When they grow up, and can see it for what it is, and the damage it did, they will despise you for it.
2007-01-02 04:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by wehweh 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Growing up my mother always favoured my elder brother, while my father was mostly absent as a parent. As a result slowly she started ignoring me and I felt abandoned and reject as a result I still feel rejected in all my relationship and have a strong desire to please others, just that they would begin to at least notice me, let alone love me.
At one point, I concluded that I must be the adopted one and hoped to meet my real parents, one day.
Today I have to deal with self worth issues arising out of this confusion I developed as a child that I am only as special as my parent think myself to be.
I am special; it is still so hard for me to convince myself of it.
It took many years of painful inner work to overcome this, but bitterness between me and my brother prevails.
2007-01-02 05:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am married and my husband mother made favoritism while raising her five boys, and some two of them are very angry about it, and make certain remarks. I have three kids and I love all my kids the same, all of them are different sports, but I support all of them in what ever they do as long as it's positive. How can anyone make favoritism between they own kids. I just could not do it. All my kids are able to come and talk to me and get advise.
It's a hurtful feeling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and makes that kid bitter!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-02 04:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by neenarosdee 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes there will be discord, in between the children, and this will remain all their lives.No dont let favortism come between children. everywhere one child is always favourite, but NEVER show it in front of them. treat them equal when they are together.
2007-01-02 04:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes it does look at Joseph in the bible how his brothers sold him because his father liked him the most so yea it does that is why it is bad for you to even show you like at child better than the other because it can cause hatred.
2007-01-02 04:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Susan 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you don't tell them they won't know. If you do the little extra things without making it a production they won't know. Don't neglect the others and uplift the favorite. Do a bit for them all but just a little extra for the favorite. I have 3 children and 3 grandchildren and I've learned a lot!
2007-01-02 04:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
yes
2007-01-02 05:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course it does.
I'm not in this position but I've witnessed it.
2007-01-02 04:29:44 · answer #11 · answered by LC 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋