Whenever I make a plan with her she always says "I don't know". I ask her if she thinks we'll be together in 1 year - "i don't know". I ask her to come to celebrate my b-day with me, "i don't know - i gotta go to my dads." How about on Saturday , "I don't know." Am I wrong for being frustrated? Am I wrong for wanting to leave her? I want to leave her but I'm afraid of being alone, forever. (I'm not the most social person in real life.) I am really good to her - buy her flowers, computer, took her around the east coast.
2007-01-01 20:09:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mind you, she said that I should ignore her body language and listen to her words only. I said NO I can't ignore body language - its essential communication to maintain a healthy relationship. Sometimes, I think she just wants to feed off my anger/agony!
2007-01-01 20:16:58 · update #1
In addition, about 1.5 years ago she told my ex-good friend (her ex) that we hooked up. She never hooked up with him (thank the lord). She knew he was a very jealous person, and very abusive. To this day, she gives me a generic excuse for doing it. I even asked her two hours earlier NOT to say anything about our private life to him or anyone.
2007-01-01 20:22:46 · update #2
My closest friends live about 105 miles away in Maine. Right now, because of the winter I don't drive.
2007-01-01 20:24:32 · update #3
I'd sit down and talk to her, voice that you don't feel happy with how things are going right now.
It might be that she is unsure about your relationship, but it might also be something else in her life that stresses her and makes her handle things a bit badly.
2007-01-01 20:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She just doesn't sound too into the relationship. Staying with someone because you're afraid of being alone is not a reason to stay in a relationship. You're not getting what you deserve. I'm not a very social person in any way but I always manage to meet someone and have a long term relationship. good luck
2007-01-02 04:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As odd as it sounds, girls tend to fall the hardest for the guys that AREN'T very good to them. She knows you are going to be there for her at the drop of a hat, so she is taking you for granted. The best thing you can do is turn the tables. Let her come to you for a change, suggest the weekend plans, make the phone calls. Once you stop being so eager to wait for her to decide what she wants, she is bound to come around. She needs to realize that a relationship takes effort and compromise from BOTH partners, and the best way to acheive it is to be unavailable to her sometimes.
2007-01-02 04:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is very important in a relationship and it sounds like your partner can't or doesn't want to communicate.
You need to sit down with her and talk to her about what is wrong and why she isn't putting effort into your relationship.
Don't let her leave until she tells you what is wrong and don't let her say "I don't know" but if she doesn't tell you I think you might need to find another girl that treats you better
2007-01-02 04:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by lynneboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey let me tell you something you been dating her for three years and if she don't know by now!!!!!! Sugar she will never know this is 2007 and if she still don't know after 3 YRS!!!!!! ARE U SERIOUS DUMP HER *** AND KEEP IT MOVING....... IF YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON LIKE YOU SAY YOU ARE AND YOU HAVE REALLY HAD IT ........KEEP IT PUSHING AND GET A REPLACEMENT..... HELL YOU DONE TOOK THE GIRL AROUND THE WORLD!!!!! FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!!!!!
I am just keeping it real she obviously ain't for you.... you need to spend some money on a REAL WOMAN that can spend time with you on your birthday because they way it sounds I bet you made time for her on hers she is pathetic
2007-01-02 04:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by how_ulovthat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are there some needs of hers that aren't being met? Flowers and gifts are all good and fine, but it's the whole package that matters the most. Can't trade goods and services for true love. Where is the love?
2007-01-02 04:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she's not a man?
Seriously, there are lots of women who'd be thrilled to be with a man who wanted to think about a future that included her. You deserve to to be able to depend upon your partner. You deserve to be with a woman who give you as much as you give her.
You seem like a nice man. If you leave your girlfriend, I promise you'll find another, better girl.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 04:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bliss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it bugs you. I'm like that too. but my boyfriends manages to get answers from me. maybe shes scared of relationships in someway or another. TALK. it helps
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and dont EVER be afraid to leave someone. it makes you so unhappy. Youll find someone new before you realize it im sure....well if you do break up. if not ..Good Luck!
2007-01-02 04:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by Leechwife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should leave her i had a relationship like this and it just keeps continueing in this annoying cycle of excuses and never getting a sure answer to anything. you should just say you want to be friends with her and maybe she will realize she treated you wrong.
2007-01-02 04:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt know about anything, stop asking her.ignore her for a while. try to be more social, make a lot of friends. move around a lot.Your frustation will get over, and maybe she will change.
2007-01-02 04:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋