i'm 13 and i still get scared if anyone tries to touch me, not just sexually, but just like if they try to touch my shoulder or whatever, and what happens when i have a b/f that i want 2 do things wit if i'm still scared to be touched at all?
2007-01-01 19:18:53 · 7 answers · asked by shadow of a girl 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i don't have a bf yet, but eventually i will and what happens when i do?
2007-01-01 19:26:54 · update #1
I do. But it took a lot of work on my part and understanding on the part of others. Others being friends, counselors, shrinks. There is a lot involved but of you are going to live normally it needs to be done. Just don't ever think that you have to be alone. there are literally millions of us out here with every variable and twist you can imagine. From young to old, male/female, violent to secretive. We all share something and that is the responsibility to ourselves to get thru it. And to our future lovers as well
2007-01-02 19:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Meatball ;) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is advised that you seek out counseling from a QUALIFIED psychologist or licensed social worker.
Getting over s.a. takes a very long time. It's ok that you are afraid, that's normal. But eventually, you'll need to break the thought process linking touch to a predator--that it can be, indeed, a way for a person to communicate genuine caring for the other person.
I am curious as to why you have a boyfriend at 13 ??? Seems like that is a little early. Give yourself a good couple of years of therapy, like until 17 or 18.
2007-01-01 19:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about this yet. almost everyone you know was sexually abused in one way or another, it seems to just be the way things are now. the key is to envision your abuser as a person that did a rotten thing and he or she is probably either in jail or feels so bad that they will never do it again hopefully. either way, i think you can find some resolution in this, seeing that they have ceased or moved on, in a positive way, and hopefully then, you can too. a 13 year old who doesn't like to be touched is normal, though.
2007-01-01 23:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by joelius24 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who has been there to they are now 19 although they have had some bad relationships in the past they have come along way now. they are now living with there boy friend in the UK and doing just fine never been happier.
so yep i think with time and work you can over come it and live a happy life.
good luck take care :)
2007-01-01 20:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Wonx2150 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a counselor, please e-mail me if you need to talk or call your local crisis hotline and they can get you in touch with a program like APPLE services which specializes in this kind of stuff.
2007-01-02 20:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to work at it. It may take a while, but if you find somebody patient enough to understand, it can work.
2007-01-01 19:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by brent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some can, and some don't. n
2007-01-01 19:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋