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There's this girl that I've really known well for about 2 years and I like her a whole lot. I took her to the dance with me last year but she acted weird. Turn out she has a boyfriend but she likes being around me. She has thrown out hints that she likes me. I have been a coward by beatin around the bush by not tellling her how I feel. She says she and her boyfriend are (supposedly) taking a "break" and I really don't know what to do. Do I tell her how I feel and how or do I just leave it alone because she might go back to him in a short period of time? Please in details. Thanks!
2007-01-01 18:54:59 · 12 answers · asked by king7897 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have nothing to lose by telling her how you feel. Just do it.
2007-01-01 18:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. #1- If you don't the feeling probably won't disappear whether or not she goes back to him & you'll be stuck in the situation until something out of your control happens (not to mention all the things/people you'd be missing out on
You shouldn't tell her. #1-Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side. I mean that maybe after this long of liking her you have put her on a pedastal that she can't live up to regardless of how wonderful she is #2-If she has been in a relationship for a while then she will need some time to get over him/ find herself/ etc. so if you did tell her and you guys got together it probably wouldn't be a healthy relationship while if you didn't see her for a while and let nature take its course you would both be ready for a relationship.
In the end it's up to you as you know the situation and her better than anyone.
2007-01-02 03:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel (she is a female, you know...she most likely already knows). When telling her, it is important that you let her know (if you really feel this way) that no matter what her immediate reaction, you'll always be her friend.
If her reaction is positive (she digs you too), set your boundaries and let her know that you won't stand for her to play around with both you and the boyfriend (soon to be x?) at the same time.
If you have waited for two years to tell her of your feelings, it will be well worth it to finally share them with her.
It may be more comfortable to remain a coward...but I've found the only way to truly live is to step out of your "comfort zone" as much as possible.
She is waiting for you to make your move. Since you have waited for so long, wait a little longer for the perfect moment. It isn't easy to control yourself in the heat of the moment, but its best not to do anything you'll regret later. Wait until she has decided to leave the boyfriend before you kiss her...or even hold her hand for longer than it takes to surrender your feelings.
Regardless of the outcome (her reaction, good or bad), props to you for facing your fears, man! You will be happily surprised by the amount of confidence you'll gain in yourself when it comes to the fairer sex. :)
2007-01-02 03:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by kylahradical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've wasted too much time already. While she's on break from the boyfriend this is a really good time to tell her how you feel but be aware it can go either way. She might just like you as a friend or she might want to take it further. Be willing to accept the outcome no matter how it goes and know that if it doesn't go the way you'd like it to, there will be others.
2007-01-02 03:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by musicisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, but the fact is you will find your life will be a whole lot better if you quit being afraid of things. Never be afraid to speak your mind or tell a girl how you feel. Relationships, especially the good kind, are because of good communication. Don't try to guess what she is thinking and don't give her hints as to what you are thinking. Speak up and speak loud and speak honest, and you will never go wrong. The worst that can happen is she will tell you she doesn't feel the same. Be ready for that, because someday, in one of your relationships with a girl, it will happen. Heartbreak and heartbend are all part of life.
2007-01-02 03:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and leave the rest to her.If she has thrown out hints then there is every possibility she will come to you.
2007-01-02 03:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ruin a friendship by her knowing that but at the same time you will never have a better chance.
2007-01-02 02:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you like her a whole lot and would like to be her boyfriend...would she please consider it.
You have nothing to lose as she may not like the boyfriend as much as you think.
She may go back to the boyfriend, but maybe not after you tell her your feelings.
Best of luck.
2007-01-02 03:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want her? if so, time to tell her before she thinks your gay or not interested! otherwise your going to end up with her in the best friends catagory! I had that it took years for me to date my fiance years do you want to wait that long???????? good luck romeo!
2007-01-02 03:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by matrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. you never know. I think that you should tell her how you feel. Maybe she'll like you back.
2007-01-02 02:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋