I have a few questions that I would love answers to!
How much does it hurt? (like a comparison or something)
Am I sposed to shave or wax "it"?
Maybes sometips
2007-01-01 18:28:37 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to break it before i get married!!! okay?
2007-01-01 18:31:40 · update #1
It's YOUR choice of when you want to lose your virginity. Don't let someone force morals that are not your own upon you. Lots of people want to lose their virginity before they get married so they have experience, or so they are more able to please their partners in marriage. Some people never get married. Some people just want to (and enjoy having) sex. With that in mind
Everyone's sexual experiences are different. Some women think losing their virginity is more painful than others. Size matters in this case. Smaller women on average find their first time more painful. I'm a larger woman and the first time I had sex it hurt a little bit like scraping yourself would. Like a dull burn. Other women say it doesn't hurt at all, and still others say it hurts ALOT.
You may or maynot bleed. I bleed for a while. If you do bleed and it lasts a while, don't freak out.
You don't "have" to shave. That's your own personal choice. Some women perfer it, while others just find it to be a nuiscanse. Some people shave when they receive oral so they situation is less awkward for their partner.
Besides that, don't be afraid. Your first time will probably be awkward, but it does get better.
2007-01-01 18:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will hurt. There is no getting around that and no real comparison. Do not tense up when he is about to break through because that will make it more painful. Waxing in that area is very painful. Only wax if it is what you want to do. You should be very sure you are ready to break your virginity. Enjoy your innocence while it lasts. But if you are set on this then make sure you buy a rubber! It will hurt for a little bit after he breaks your virginity but if he is experienced it will go a lot better for you. Also, if he kisses or touches you roughly then he will more than likely be rough when he breaks through. Please try to find someone who cares about you and your feelings before you do this. You will be sore for a little while after and you will see blood. Good Luck and I pray that you think this through and not do a moment of passion!
2007-01-01 18:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes better to shave or cut the hair clean,but
leave around grain-length of hair strand.Don't
totally shave it, according to survey,a triangle
shape is the best!Then put conditioner while taking a bath and petrolium jelly before sleeping to keep the hair smooth.
It's painful especially if your partner is big and
your very tight down there.It's like being torn apart or being ripped-off!Then after that you cannot walk well, like something is swollen down there.My advise is not to think so much of
the pain, just like when you go to a dentist-you will get over it!Or you can also ask your partner
to do it little by little.Don't complete the insertion the first time around.
2007-01-01 18:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by ranya j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm ok
if it hurts depends on his size. like if he is a "knobe" you wont even feel it so it doesnt pop the cherry. Now if he is big enough to pop the cherry its gonna hurt like heck. I mean almost close enough as breaking a leg. but its gonna happen so dont let that scare you cuz after the pain its all good from there and you will love it lol.
I want to say to wait til your married cuz that is really the best answer period. But it sounds you dont wanna wait til marriage. so if your going to do it before i recommend you be safe and wear a condom and be on birth control or something. I wouldnt wax cuz it hurts and it can even hurt so bad cuz if you wrip it off to quick some skin layers even comes off and trust me that really fing hurts!!! If you shave it make sure to lotion it alot so you dont get the bad itch syndrome lol. I would just trim it!
Either way I hope you choose to wait til marriage....i did not wait and i regret it today!
2007-01-01 18:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by rayannchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Johnny!!!
Sorry but your the reason for you to want to "break" your virginity is "WIERD". Why would you want to do that, for that reason???
I believe you should not plan on this so mechanicaly. Loosing the virginity as having intercourse for the first time should be something special, positive and plesant.
NOT something like for example; (going to the dentist and check for cavities and bad breath before kissing for the first time)
It is absolutely, weird, the fact that you want "to break it " before you get marry!!!
My advice, wait until you meet someone who you are attracted and feel comfortable with enough to have intercourse with. And explain to him first what is your porpuse of this, be honest. Ask for savety first, protect yourself. You don't want to do this for your own reasons and later find out you are waking up to a night mare, dealing with pregnacy or even worst Sexual Transmitted Dease "SDT".
If you don't NEED to do this, please don't, at least don't do this for this reason!!! Eventually this has an impact in yourself esteem. It could be positive or negative, and you will carry it as your own experience for the rest of your life!!!
That's why virginity is so important. Because if you go and do it for the wrong reasons chances are it will continue to be wrong the rest of your life!!! Please reconsider, this you are important, and so is your body and how you do things with it!!!
GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS YOU
HAPPY NEW YEAR
ALLIV Z
2007-01-01 19:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It hurts more than you want to, or need to know. I wish I could go back & still be a virgin, save yourself for the right one. Most men will just use you & leave you. And wax, don't shave unless you plan on doing it every day for the rest of your life.
2007-01-01 18:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by gotniceteeth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be scared? Every normal girl goes through her first time and there is a first time for everything! It will not feel as good the first time as it will the second or third time but it is free and it is the best thing you will ever feel or know in life once you are past the first few times!
Why deprive yourself of such an incredible feeling!
2007-01-01 18:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by I made this! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Johnny, I totally understand where you are coming from cause I have been there and done that. You see, I was 11 years old and had a crush on a guy that was like a father to me which lived with us that had been sexually molesting me previously. When I reached seventh grade it was hard fro me to make friends and I was being teased a lot about my virginity and hated it so much. That same day I went to this man that had already been touching me inappropriately and started asking questions and asked him if he would and he said "Yes, but you are gonna scream and hollar." I asked why and he said cause it hurt so I took it all back and said I didn't want it, but it was all too late he said. He basically raped me repeatedly after I said no to and that I changed my mind. I felt cheap, dirty, and useless. Please don't make that mistake that I made but tried to take back and still ended up losing it to a man that didn't love me or care about me, but that he was merely using me for a piece of butt. Years I have kicked myself over this and it has caused me many relationships as well cause guys, believe it or not still want women who are a virgin and it means so much more to them knowing that their wife is not some whore that will sleep with every tom, dick, and harry. Please, you owe it to yourself and to him to wait until you are married before engaging in any sexual fastivities. Also it is what God would want you to do and it is what he commands of you. Your body is a temple, his temple at that so be good to it!
2007-01-01 20:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah it hurts like crazy. I would rather break my arm in three places. Plus you bleed when it happens my suggestion is to wait a while. Be with your guy for a really long time and even then save that. You have to know what you want when you make a decision to do something. And you need to make sure that you are ready to deal with all the emotions that come along with sex. For women/girls, its not something we can give someone and if they reject us move on. That is hurtful and you will feel betrayed. I know this isn't what you wanna hear but just think about it.
Sex is an adult thing are you ready to make adult decisions? An adult decision is something that you have to live with something that once you make that decision and follow through there is no turning back ever..
Good luck in your decision process
2007-01-01 18:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Edwards 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i'm not sure i hear from some it hurts others not so much, it didnt hurt me when i first did it so im not sure. the guy wasnt small nor easy with me. for the wax thing, if u can stand pain b my guest but, i surely wouldnt. if u plan on shavin down there, bcareful u dont cut urself. some ppl find it easier to use a small mirror 2 make sure they get all the hair. just a helpful tip....gl
2007-01-01 18:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by thatsspoiledangel2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋