I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. A year ago he got a new job in IN while I stayed in TN to finish up school. We see each other once a month. The long distance thing has been hard and I notice we fight more this year...Well, three weeks ago he got promoted within his company and moved again to a new town in IN. He met a woman there who recommended his apartment complex. He went to dinner with her twice and kissed her at the end of the second date. I found this out when I saw he was googling her on his computer when I went to visit, and I contacted her and she told me they went on 2 dates and kissed once. I dumped him immediately.
Now, my boyfriend is going nuts. He's bawling and saying that the only reason he went out with her was because he was tired of our arguing. He even is telling me he will buy me this $9000 ring and sending me pictures of it. I'm worried he will cheat again...Once a cheater always a cheater, right? But I love him so much. What should I do?!?
2007-01-01 18:25:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like your just making excuses for something you already know.
2007-01-01 18:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I know it's hard not to think of the good times and want to take him back. Once a cheater always a cheater is right. You have to ask yourself if it would be worth being cheated on again. Good luck.......
2007-01-02 02:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by ryjames06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loved u , he wouldnt have cheated...but, listen 2 ur heart if u think u can do it again. with the possible of him doin it again. its up 2 u, but if u love him n he loves u just as much. then its up 2 u. but, mainly it is once a cheater always a cheater. but if u can 4 give him n get passed it n he promises he will seek help so he doesnt do it again....good luck
2007-01-02 02:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by thatsspoiledangel2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it him you love or the $9000.00 ring? I would also say myself how immature he is to bribe you with a materialistic thing. Yes i would say so myself that the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" seems to be true and it might be comforting to believe in it, but i think if you love that someone enough you can overcome bigger obstacles then the one you are having now. Good luck, hope that helped.
2007-01-02 02:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by cremedelacreme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he wont do it again. If he cant commit know and flirts with others guarantee he will do it again. Just be friends or stop. You need to move on and find someone show loves you regardless where they live. There or far away. Who is not going to cheat,make excuses. Good luck
2007-01-02 02:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by shortandsassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way! the fact that hes sending you of a picture of a $9000 ring makes it even worse because he shouldnt need to bribe you to get you to forgive him. you're right. once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-02 02:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SWEETHEART, I HAVE BEEN THERE AND IT IS NOT A GOOD FEELING. BUT THE QUESTION YOU HAVE TO ASK YOUR SELF IS AM I GOING TO HAVE THIS FEELING EVERY TIME HE GOES AWAY OR AM I GOING TO TRUST HIM? WHEN THIS HAPPENED TO ME , I THOUGHT I COULD TRUST HER,THAT WASNT THE CASE.THAT INSTABILITY OR WONDERING NEVER FADES NO MATTER HOW FORGIVING. ALSO, THE RING DOESNT MEAN MUCH IF HE DIDNT CONSIDER WHAT HE WAS DOING IN THE FIRST PLACE. MOST ADULTRY IN MARRIAGES 62% , END IN DIVORCE YOU ARE NOT THERE YET SO REALLY WEIGH OUT YOUR OPTIONS, MAYBE THIS IS THE ONLY TIME THAT YOU KNOW ABOUT!!!!!!!!!!!! WELL I HAVE TO GO, GOOD LUCK YOU WILL NEED IT
2007-01-02 04:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by todd L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make any difference if it cost $90,000.00 or .99 cents. Being away is hard. At least he and she told you the truth. It sounds like he really cares about you. I know its hard to forgive, but if you can quit argueing and work things out, then I suggest do it. BUT....thats up to you. I'm sure there are more details than you can allow, but try to forgive anyway. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-02 02:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by drew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its really hard considering youve been together for 3 years, but if he really loved u hun he wouldnt of cheated. Maybe its time to move on. Good luck sweety xoxo
2007-01-02 02:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by tu_sweet189 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if this happened once or was a multiple thing. I hate ppl who cheat but if it was an "in the moment" thing... and only happened once, he might deserve a second change... The whole ring thing, that's kinda psycho... take some time apart and see if it's wat u want.
2007-01-02 02:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋