Ok, heres the story.on friday he came home and told me he just came back from the local bar and had a beer before he came home. I was upset because he took my car and had a beer in his system while driving. He wasnt drunk or anything but I was still upset. He got mad at me and said that he has his own life and will go there whenever he wants. I took a nap and later in the evening I woke up and suggested that we go to the same bar. I said OK I will meet you there, so I got ready and got there about an hour later. While I was walking inside I became INFURIATED becuase he was at the bar and talking to another woman. I just snapped, and as I got between them I said "who the f--- is this?" He was drunk at then and I was just so mad. I told him to go home with his new girlfriend, and preceded to tell him that I would rip the dead rat off the top of his head, and I grabbed his shirt. He started talking smack, saying I was psycho, etc, and he got the tab so he could leave.I wanted to look at..
2007-01-01 18:24:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
the bill to see what he ordered but he grabbed it before me. I finally got the bill and saw that there was a drink ordered for the woman, so I just snapped and slapped him real hard across the face. Then he all of a sudden punched me. and then shoved me, he started to leave and then a few guys walked out behind him and threatened to punch him. The cops got called and took pics of my face, etc etc, and then arrested him at home(he walked) what kinda hurts is that my dad bailed him out of jail... it was stupid I know but what do I do now??
2007-01-01 18:25:10 · update #1
Ok ok, from the moment I read "he punched me" I realized how stupid your question REALLY was. I am sorry, I dont mean to be offensive, but listen! Your boyfriend is an abusive, cheating jerk! There is absolutely NO reason to spend your life around such people who will only bring yours down. Find someone who will be there to protect you from morons like him.
2007-01-01 18:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...
you were right to be upset about his driving your car while having had one drink. Excuses are like as.s.holes, everyone has one. Your car, your insurance. His beer, his driving....still...your insurance.
so then you met him at the bar and he was with another woman...again you were right to be upset...however!
violence never solves anything, especially like this. the both of you had a fight and only he was arrested? Good thing you live in that state, in my state, both people involved in a domestic violence dispute get arrested and then both people face the judge and both people get mandatory rage classes, and responsible adulting classes.
It was a stupid situation, so tell him that. If he feels it was just as stupid....all might work out well. But then.....why should you? It would appear there is more underlying matters at heart for both of you. Do you resent him for certain things? Does he not like something about you or you about him? If the two of you had a fight a physical fist drawn fight and blows were exchanged, I would advise a relationship councilor. There is definitely more to your relationship than either of you are willing to talk about with each other. Once you figure out what that is, you, in your individual life, will be so much better.
2007-01-01 19:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every domestic voilence case as long as there is evidence of domestic violence the police officer has no choice but to take the party into custody.. once theyre in custody new laws make it where the case is transfered to the District Attorney and they automaticaly press charges. this is because many times a person will get the crap beat out of them and then say they dont want to press charges so it waisted officers and court time and resorces.
since you actually hit him first.. it could have been you going to jail. i would recommend that you take a break from that person and consentrate on yourself. If someone is going to lie to you and then punch you in the face... um thats a good sign he really doesnt care for you. Its hard to let things go.. learn from experiance the first time thru.. i might not be so pretty next time
2007-01-01 18:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Get Money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you do now?.. get yourself some serious help. Although he has done some things that are not right (and I'm not justifying them in any way) YOU are acting pretty irrationally. Any woman with some self respect would have handled the whole situation entirely different and now it's just one big mess. If you don't want to continue dealing with one mess after another in life, you are going to have to learn to deal with things differently to the way you currently are. What he did was wrong, sure but letting your anger get the better of you in a public place until it errupts into a situation with the cops taking pictures of your face, should tell you that things aren't really as good as they should be. Learn to deal with things differently including respecting yourself enough to not have a wanker for a boyfriend and not causing a scene at a bar when things go wrong.
2007-01-01 18:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you've been both at fault yet except for the hitting and slapping, the actual incontrovertible truth that he stopped for a lager on the way hom and went to the bar and change into procuring drink for this different female shows that he's not dedicated to you so that you may %. and go away - or if the position of abode is on your call, throw him out. Coulseling might want to help if there change into any style of committment between both of you yet what what you suggested I experience that there is not and hasn't been for a even as because you moved in mutually.
2016-12-01 10:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a cheater? You hit first! In this case the woman was wrong even if he was with another woman at the time, While I don't ever tolerate a man hitting a woman, people need to learn how to control their tempers. Love can turn to Obsession. Domestic Violence is serious, your dad bailing him out should have answered this question for you.
2007-01-01 18:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by DRP 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
since you'er timper is so uncontrollabul maybe you should talk to him over the phone to see where his head is. let him tell you how he fills about you and see if the relationship is over, if it is shake it off regroup andmove on. you cant force anyone to be with you, just remember what gos around comes around. if he have any filling for you at all he try to come back when the bottom falls out from under this new found relationship if thats the case. never belittle you'er self for no man. please remember theres nothing classy about a getto acting young lady
2007-01-01 18:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by goldenangelhearts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me summarize: your boyfriend drinks too much, is looking at other women, and hits you. It sounds like he has a lot of problems. If I were you, I would make sure to testify at his domestic violence hearing and encourage him to check himself into rehab. And it sounds like you might benefit from some counseling, too. I sincerely hope that things go better for both of you in the future.
2007-01-02 06:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, this is not a healthy relationship on either part. He is obviously is looking at other women, you can't tell him a nice way that you don't like it, don't think he would listen if you did, and he is physically abusive. Leave him, get some consling on why you choose assholes for bf and then find a good one.
2007-01-02 09:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by fifimsp1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend who isn't an abusive drunk who disrespects you...oh and show up to your court date. If he doesn't get punished for this he will just continue to do it again either to you or somebody else. Next time he might kill you. (opppss! sorry honey! I didnt mean to hit you that hard.) You deserve a better life then this.
2007-01-01 18:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by Evil Ameba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋