I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. A year ago he got a new job in IN while I stayed in TN to finish up school. We see each other once a month. The long distance thing has been hard and I notice we fight more this year...Well, three weeks ago he got promoted within his company and moved again to a new town in IN. He met a woman there who recommended his apartment complex. He went to dinner with her twice and kissed her at the end of the second date. I found this out when I saw he was googling her on his computer when I went to visit, and I contacted her and she told me they went on 2 dates and kissed once. I dumped him immediately.
Now, my boyfriend is going nuts. He's bawling and saying that the only reason he went out with her was because he was tired of our arguing. He even is telling me he will buy me this $9000 ring and sending me pictures of it. I'm worried he will cheat again...Once a cheater always a cheater, right? But I love him so much. What should I do?
2007-01-01 18:23:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what you said is right "Once a cheater, always a cheater"a person who has already cheated on you once would not mind doing it again>that would leave you in a crestfallen situation
he didnt think about your feelings when he went out with the other women..
i always go on the "forgive and forget" path .that's what i advice you too
he is not the only fish in the sea....you might get a more good looking and trustworthy man out there .
>>>>so tell him to get lost with his $9000 ring....believe me this is the right way
2007-01-01 18:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by lostinlosangeles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were a little to hard on the guy, although I admire your standards of commitment.
His reaction to your dumping him seems like it might be sincere. I wouldn't judge your future relationship with him based on the very strained situation you have been in for the last several months.
You were faithful. He screwed up. Give him another chance, but let him know that you have zero tolerance for cheating.
2007-01-02 02:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youve invested 3 years in him., you love him. He didnt have sex with her he just kissed her. The separation couldnt have been easy. Normally Id say dump him but in this case I think he deserves another chance. He did not have sex with her so keep that in mind.
However I would let him know you are no dummy and that next time there will be no second chance. Then drop it and dont dwell on it or itll poison the relationship.
2007-01-02 02:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kissing a woman is not exactly what I would call cheating, it was a very close call, and separation does that to some men, I think you might give him a chance to prove himself, and in my humble opinion a $9000 ring is out rages for any one how could you ever be comfortable wearing some thing that costly every day
2007-01-02 02:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmm what does your gut tell you? Always trust your instincts.....and yeah, if he did this too ya once, who knows when he'll do it again...after all, his bawling just started once he knew that you knew....
If you love him so much but you two are fightin so much, something's been wrong for a while...how would you know this is the first girl he went on a date with even?
2007-01-02 02:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how much you love him.
just remember that everyone deserves a second chance.
seriously, if your relationship means alot, and is strong enough, you should be able to make it through this.
BUT FIRST!
it really depends on WHY he did it, being sick of the fighting isnt good enough.
make him answer more.
make him FEEL BAD! ask him if he liked it, if he regrets it.
anything.
and if he gives your reasonable answers, give him another chance.
but dont be as nice as you were lasttime.
tell him you dont trust him, it needs to be regained.
cause sometimes, guys cheat even though they love their girlfriends to death.
talk to the other woman abit more aswell.
did he mention he had a girlfriend?
well, i hope i helped. [[:
2007-01-02 02:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lor. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll do it again , tell him you found someone else he's not worthy . There are guys who wouldn't do this to you around. Don't short change yourself , trust has been lost in this relationship it's gone and won't come back. Sorry to hear this and good luck to you. You'll do better next time I'm sure.
2007-01-02 02:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if you ain't in the same town.
He will cheat on you.
Sorry but I would go on.
I know it will hurt but so will going down there and catching him in the act of something you don't want to see.
He is acting like that because he got caught. Making up lame excuses.
Dump him and go on.
2007-01-02 02:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advisable not to, men who cheats will usually cheat again, from what you have said i noticed he have not shown any commitment and patience to your relationship. plus if you still want to tolerate his childish tantrums and bawings like a nanny to a kid, you can take hem back.
2007-01-02 02:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by MoMo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really loves you. People make mistakes...
2007-01-02 02:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Timothy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋