Question for men . . . Do you know to court a woman...not just chase or date her ?

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Honest question men . . . Many, not all, men seem to simply date and chase a woman. He will keep himself securely to the side, behaving in ' strong ' manner, focused interest in how soon he can 'touch' or ' bed ' her, at times while 'dating' her will not call her for a week . . . And, I did express most men, not all.

A woman's preference is for a man to pursue and court a woman.

Do men have a desire to, know what it is to, or how to court a woman ? Court as in honorably, respectfully pursue, share courtship ?

I adore, value and respect men . . . yet tire of men who simply chase and date without value.

Do men know what it is to court a woman ? If so, what do you know that to be ? Respectfully and honestly asking.
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Answer 1

There has been a saying for decades that chivalry is dead. I hope not. What ever happened to romance? Is there passion anymore? Or is it all about sex? If I had a dime for every IM'er that said "lets get together for sex!" I could retire.
Its not..lets meet and have dinner and see what develops... not lets chat and get to know each other... nothing at all about whats your name coming up first at all.
I'm looking for Mr Right. All they are interested in is right now.
No thanks.. I'll stay single if this is the best the guys can do these days.

Answer 2

I don't know why we are even having these kind of discusses. I mean whom really care whom the person down the street is dating. People can date whom they want to date. But to answer your question not all black men are dating out. But I get what you are talking about since not only on yahoo answers but on other forums on the internet people are acting like every black guy is dating anything but black women. I mean some do and some don't, but some people are acting like no black guy want a black woman which isn't true. Just ignore the people whom are online that seem to think that no or most black men will never date a black woman or want only non-black women since those people are stretching it out way more than it should be.

Answer 3

The question infers that women generally act the same way, that they want to be courted. Yet there are plenty out there who act just like the guys you describe. They might not be as eager to get in bed, but they exhibit all the other characteristics. I suggest that those women who want to be courted just continue to act respectable and classy. That and choose your dates wisely or figure out ways to weed the bad ones out sooner than later.

And yes, some men know what it is to court a women.

Answer 4

yea, courting a woman no longer works in this day and age, god knows, i've tried it, and its been mistaked for weakness or something else that was undesirable for women, so i stopped doing that.

most women, not all, but most, want some flash and glam and want a guy to chase them and play games with them and blah blah blah, while other times women will just act sleazy, depends on the girl, but most of the time girls don't know what courting is and do not respond favorably towards it anyway

Answer 5

Yes the right men do know, but others dont and it doesnt bother them. I feel sorry for guys (and girls) who are just in relationships for the sake of not being alone, and there are so many of those people out there. The reason for which I feel sorry for them, is that they have never experienced true love, for if they did, they would never settle for anything less again. If you are tired of men who just date without value, choose your men or your friends better.

Answer 6

I am a guy that sorta did both. Girls that would come onto me, I would basically chase for tail (actually at the time I didn't care for it. Still dont, but with those girls I could have had it if I wanted it). But then I found two girls (friends unfortunantly) that I fell in absolute love with. One I dated for 2 years, never cheated, though I had a few chances to. Basically got to be her best friend, and lover. Spent as much time as possible with eachother. Mostly due to school we didnt spend all the time with eachother but we still dated and hung out as often as possible. We didnt get into sex, though I slightly flirted about it for a laugh every once and awhile, till we both we 18 and on a special trip of our own.

However recently she moved to the other side of the US because of family troubles. I plan to still stay friends with her and get stable enough to come get her and marry her as soon as possible.

Then there is the second girl. We are friends, have been the entire 2 years of me dating the first girl. 2nd girl didnt suspect that I loved her till I told her straight up. However she said she could only see me as a friend. Due to her being raped in middle school, and not being able to feel properly about guys, even though she can be good friends with them and dated this one guy before. But also she doesnt want to get into a relationship because she wants to concentrate on college.
Basically even though she says she sees me as a friend, I'm hoping it can become more than that. I will respect her wishes and try not to pull romance on her. But I have been taking her out more often to have fun and hang out.

In return for my answer could you please email me your opinion on if I am correct in my courting method.

Answer 7

I wonder about women like that too(excluding you of course). I believe in opening doors, pulling their chair out etc. I'm 42 and most women want to know the size of my wallet. I don't play that game. I think it's a lot about maturity, both men and women. Some men feel if you "wine and dine" a young lady that it means you automatically get to sleep with her. Some women feel that if her date spends some money on her or "helps" her out finincially, then she will sleep with him. That isnt how I operate, never have and never will. We live in "fast" times, I guess some men and women feel that they need to get it while they can. "It" being whatever they want. It puts us "Gentlemen" on the sideline. But I know that there are nice ladies like yourself who still appreciate a gentleman. Thank you for asking, you give me hope!

Answer 8

I can honestly say I can see where you are coming from on this. I have always believed to be honest, respectful, romantic, and patient. There arent enough men like me anymore, I guess thats why girls tend to fall for me ;) Great question I am interested to see the turn out.

Answer 9

I know you geared this for the guys, but I wanted to put a word in for my husband because he did court me the old fashioned way.

-He used to write me love letters (not emails) and mail them to me

-He sent huge bouquets of flowers to my office making me and all the women swoon

-He called me just because he wanted to hear my voice

-He sent me love cards

-He held my hand

-We'd take slow walks in the parks and watch movies at night

-Opened doors and pulled out chairs

-Thoughtful in his gifts to me

Need I say more?

Answer 10

We tire of your rituals equally as well.