I am recently engaged. We have dated for 8 years. It would have been sooner but 4 years ago I found a love note from her to this other guy. She denies it is her handwriting, but it was clearly hers. It has been years and she has been faithful since, but it still lingers at times. Do you think it will ever go away?
2007-01-01 17:08:38 · 8 answers · asked by freshlybakedj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes it will...if u do truely love her..then u will let it go..she has been faithful...y make the both of u wait ne longer..i think u and her will be happier married..and that note could have been old...or she could have just been openminded..and was seeing if u were the right guy for her..and apparently u are..
2007-01-01 17:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by tina o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
This is a major situation in which you will want to spend hours on talking with your wife to be. If you don't trust her 100% than you might want to postpone your wedding. However, if you know that nothing is going on than go ahead with the wedding. The only true way to know if she wrote the letter is a lie detector test. So if she is willing to do it then she probably has nothing to hide. lol :D But that would be a little extreme. Just talk to her and figure it out together. Good Luck! ;)
2007-01-02 01:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Texas <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some doubts never go away, but you just have to let it go, it's in the past, she's probably learned from her mistake if she's been faithful ever since. Just trust her, and things will turn out for the better.
2007-01-02 01:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will ever go away, but maybe it will lessen as your relationship with her grows and strengthens. As your love for her grows, maybe you can find it in your heart to forgive her and forget it. If you can't let it go, there's always the risk that you might bring it up during a future fight, which can really undermine your current relationship. If you love her, bury it, trust her completely, and go forward.
2007-01-02 01:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by NeckLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it - U guys may of had some problems back then and she was thinking about someone else - she never gave the letter to him so your golden - I'm sure there has been time in your relationship where you wanted to stray and didn't - Its normal and she is still there, forget about it
2007-01-02 01:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk openly about these things, and come to a resolution. I would hold off on marraige. I'm sure it's fine though.
2007-01-02 01:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Marmontos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says it isn't hers you have to take her word. A marriage shouldn't be build on lies. The best thing to do it talk to her about it and try to forget about it
2007-01-02 01:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by JJBP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what you read . and knoww she lie again that is a woman,s nature pal been there and belive me it isnt fun being with a woman you cant trust . my opion?
2007-01-02 01:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋