its been months ago were dating obviuosly we like each other.. and he said he will break up with his long distance relation gf.. untill now they are still together.. how will i tell him? i feel guilt to the gf. well they havent seen each other since i met him
2007-01-01 16:59:14 · 22 answers · asked by bianca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie. He's using you. It's obvious. You shouldn't have to tell him to break up with his girlfriend for you. If he wanted to be exclusive with you he would have done it immediately when he decided to be with you. It should be a red flag that someone would want to rush into a relationship with another person so quickly with someone that recently met for someone they already had an established relationship with. It's reflects a very poor character and a lack of value in honesty and commitment. What would prevent him from wanting to be in a relationship with the next girl who was a little better...a little closer..a little nice than you?
Meanwhile you're sitting at home trying to figure out how to tell him what to do. He's grown and has his own mind. He's very capable of making his own decisions. He's decided to stay with his long distance girlfriend and string you along because you're convienient and closer. One day that girlfriend will return to town..what then?
Leave while you're thinking clearly and not clouded with emotions. You'll have a better chance with someone who is single and free. Someone who will choose you because you are what they want not just a better option because the person they really want is not available for them.
Think of yourself as golden and don't settle for anything less.
2007-01-01 17:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want this guy?? He is a cheat & if he really liked you, he would have had the cherries to break up with his current girlfriend & THEN ask you out. As for you, you are no better. You knew he was seeing someone else & you STILL went out with him. How skanky is that???
I take back what I said about why you would want this guy. You two are two peas in a pod, you deserve each other....
2007-01-02 01:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if he has a real girl why does this guy need a long distance gf. ?? thats just retarded don't you think. I say get her email address and tell her your with him. And that you two are together.
Either that for dump him.. seems like hes using you for sex cause your there and he really loves this other chick..
2007-01-02 01:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't know the intensity or time investment your guy and his girlfriend have with each other, but it sounds like you helped him cheat on his girlfriend... So, my question is, how do you know this same guy wouldn't do the same thing to you? I don't know if you have heard this phrase before, but I think it's pretty dead-on: "Once a cheater, always a cheater". I'd be careful with a guy like this, because if you validate a cheating behavior, he might be apt to cheat on you too! Be careful!
2007-01-02 01:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by DaveEngel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...He SAYS he hasn't seen her since he met you, but i was with a guy for 3 years and found out he waw with his girl the whole time. Find ways to make him prove he's with only you without letting on to him...likehave you ben to his place? do you have his home phone number...does she still call him/text/IM all the time? Make sure he is wthe man you REALLy want before wasting years on his lies and promises
2007-01-02 01:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't trust him. why would he go with you to start with if he had a girlfriend. and why hasen't he written or gotten in touch with her and tell her that he is having a hard time with this long distance relationship and he wants to move on.
maybe he is married.....who knows with this guy. have you met his family yet? or anyone close to him? i think his relationship with this girl is deeper than one would look at it.
i had a friend who went out with this guy for two years while he had a girlfriend overseas.....guess what! when she came back to the country, they got married and my friend was heartbroken.
tell him to lay his cards on the table or else you will start dating other guys too. you can go out with him but you do not have to be committed to him totally as he isn't to you.
2007-01-02 01:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by mrym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first question wether or not he really likes you, cuz he doesnt then he's just using u
but if he really does then i would talk to him about it....if u take no action the no action from him is most likely goin to be taken so if u really want him to go through with it then go further then asking him if he is and him telling u that he is... have a full deep conversation about it
2007-01-02 01:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are in the wrong, does it feel good to hurt another? Why should he break up with her? He should make amends to her and tell you to fly a kite.
2007-01-02 01:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Zoey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him, and tell him that he shouldn't be dating two girls at the same time. Also to dump her since he likes or loves you more. Hope this helps! :D
2007-01-02 01:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by lil_nice_guy72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you, he would have broke things of with his girlfriend ages ago. You are just a play thing while she isn't there.
Move on.
2007-01-02 01:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Mummabear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋