Okay, I have 3 daughters. Ages 15, 11 and 6. Our first 2 children have baby books we made when they were babies, but our youngest, we kind of got lazy and didn't make one. Just the stress of raising 3 kids and making sure everyone was safe and sound was on our mind and I didn't think about a baby book. She's seen the other 2 childrens books and asked to see hers. I kind of changed the subject. Now I feel horrible. Should I buy one and kind of "remember" things and add it to a book for her or should I be honest and just tell her we didn't make one for her? I don't want her to feel left out or unloved, which is sooo far from the truth. I love that little girl more than anything. I wish I could go back in time, but I can't. What do you suggest?
2007-01-01 16:53:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think you actually have the chance to make something really special out of this. Rather than lying to her, tell her that you had a lot to do with a new little baby to love, and you got so caught up in it that you didn't make one. Instead, you should tell her that you want to make one for her now, and you can try to remember things together! It's a great chance to re-tell the stories. Only do a little bit for the parts you skipped (early baby, teeth growing in, etc.). Instead, focus on what she's done lately that she remembers and was important to her, such as her first day of school, her first valentine, her favorite holidays, etc.
You and she should go to the store and pick out a scrapbook and some decorations she likes (Target has a lot of these, usually for fairly cheap) or she can help make some out of sewing scrap and any other neat craft items around the house. You can even create a tradition by adding new pages when something special happens.
Remember that baby books are more often for us as parents than for our children. When she's older and looks back on a book that she helped make of events she still may remember, it will seem just as special as her siblings'...maybe even more. My four-year-old loves helping with this, and we recently did her first day of school--she feels so special! Now we try to remember one or two things every month, and her book is huge.
2007-01-01 17:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by fairygothmommy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, you want to be truthful, but also make her feel loved and reassured. Tell her, "Hun when you were little having 3 kids got a little crazy, so we put off your baby book until you got bigger and could help. You are the youngest and your book needs to be special, so I want you to help me find your favorite pictures and drawings (etc,)... and we will make you a special scrap book." Since this isn't going to be a "baby book" necessarily, since you probably don't remember all the info and things that they usually contain, you could just make it a scrap book of her first few years. Do you still have clippings from her first haircut? Things like that could go in it, and your daughter could make new drawings to decorate it. Make it fun and include her, this could be a great thing!
2007-01-01 17:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 05:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad Parents have been doing the same things for years....
I really think its important to be honest but on her level..
tell her you were having to much fun being her mommy
and then do a scrap book
6 is the purfect age for scrap booking
lol (can you tell I am from Utah
2007-01-01 17:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by GrassRootsRabbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you make one. she doesn't have to know when you did it, or you can get all the pics together and explain that these are all the wonderful things you wanted to put in the book, and got so busy just enjoying her that you didn't get to it yet, and would she like to help you? then you can make it a special project for the two of you, spend quality time together, and tell her stories of herself with the pictures. I guess it depends on your daughter's nature as to which will go over better. you should do one either way, though, for yourself and for her.
2007-01-01 17:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by rainydaydreamr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..
I would tell her the truth BUT then suggest that you can start making a baby book together, might be a little fun thing for the two of you to work on together.
2007-01-01 16:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the exact dates dont matter buy one and fill it out together. You could always buy one in secret and fill it out. Either way it is important to her that she is equal to her siblings. Dont feel bad about the book, With each child the excitement of the "firsts" wears off but they are still important.
2007-01-01 16:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Angela S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try doing a scrapbook. Those are really nice.
2007-01-01 17:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by ?only?me? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋