my friend is very sexual and starts to get pushy and wants to get ot the point to you know (do) me. anyways the prob is she is my cuzin,so its gross (even th she is extremely gorgeous) how can i get her off me?? ths happens when she gets wyay to hyper to the point where she seems high and drunk from hyperness. she looks up to me i am 2 years older then her. i am 15 she is 13. Anyone have ideas????
2007-01-01 16:47:30 · 13 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you both girls? Run straight to the nearest adult and get some help.
2007-01-01 17:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want friendship; he or she wants more. How to draw the line without making future encounters awkward?
Instructions
* STEP 1: Try subtle hints that let the other party know that you're not interested in romance. For instance, "I really value our friendship" (with emphasis on "friend"), or "It's so nice to have a guy/girl friend who I can talk to without any kind of romantic tension to get in the way."
* STEP 2: Mention that you're involved with someone else (assuming that's true) if the other party is a new acquaintance and shows unwanted romantic interest.
* STEP 3: Tell the person up front that you enjoy being single right now and are not looking for a romantic partner, but that you're always looking for new friends.
* STEP 4: Make a joke out of your rejection if the person is an older friend: "We'd never make a good couple; we know each other's hang-ups too well - there'd be nothing to argue about!"
* STEP 5: Be honest and tell your friend why you don't think a relationship would work out, unless the real reason is that you aren't attracted to him or her. Even the closest of buddies would have a hard time rekindling a friendship after such a harsh rejection.
* STEP 6: Change the subject after you've dashed the notion of romance and try to forget about what just happened. Dwelling on the reasons why you don't want to get involved with a friend won't do the friendship any good.
* STEP 7: Enjoy the friendship as you always have.
Tips & Warnings
* If your friend persists in trying to become romantically involved with you after you've established your boundaries, reconsider if this person really is your friend. Real friends respect boundaries; they don't try to knock them down.
2007-01-02 01:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are older than her, let her know that she is not being appropriate and that you don't want to become sexual with her. It sounds as if she may have a condition such as bipolar disorder in which the person becomes very hyper and overly sexual as well. (They seem almost as if they are on speed, can talk too fast, get out of control.) At any rate, don't act on any impulses that you may have to become sexual with her, whether you are attracted to her or not. You are cousins, so it is likely that you will be around each other for a long time and the guilt, shame, and embarassment that you would probably feel is not worth it!
2007-01-02 01:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Megumi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is 13 then she is probably going through changes with her body that she dont really understand. Sit down and talk to her seriously.. You know give her that look like "hey, don't play with me right now cuz I am big and you are little."(lol) Then just say look we are family you cant play with me like that, I dont like it. And then maybe you should tell someone to talk to her about the changes she is going through, or if you feel comfortable talk to her about what you went through it might be different but just let her know we all go through it as girls ( not the freaky cousin kissin) but you know.
2007-01-02 01:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to stop doing whatever it is that she is doing at the time and hope that she does. If not, you may need to get help from someone older.
2007-01-02 01:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eww. That is straight up disgusting! First, tell your parents and have them talk with her parents. You both are minors! You need to stop this situation before things get worse...
Take care.
2007-01-02 04:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help and though you do not want to snitch on her i will advice you to let your mom know so she can be helped.this is the only way you can find out if someone else is touching her or if she is being exposed to wrong influences.you can't do this alone,you need adult help .
2007-01-02 01:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so im either guessing that your a girl on your own yahoo account or your a boy on your sister's yahoo account. either way, this question is really disturbing. my answer, stop hanging around her as much as possible. if you cant avoid her then go somewhere around an adult like you mom or aunt or whatever.
2007-01-02 05:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♥immortal_vampire♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and explaine to her the situation, since you are older, become an idol, and teach her the moralitys of life. Tell her that you don't appreciate this, and explaine to her that she needs to stop, be sure not to be rude about it!
2007-01-02 00:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop or you are going to involve her parents and yours.
Do not have sex with your cousin that is so unhealthy and can scar you both for life.
Besides you two are too young for this.
2007-01-02 03:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋