ok here's the deal. I am a teen... and I go to my friends house a lot. Well her dad and i talk a lot and we started to fall for each other. We are honestly in love. He is all i can think about and he tells me the same. He isnt a rapist or anything wierd like that. He said that he cant help but love me. We have kissed a few times... but nothing extreme like sex or something. Is it wrong? am i horrible?
2007-01-01 16:39:45 · 33 answers · asked by softballbabe :D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-01 17:39:53 · update #1
OMG-that man is a pedophile.
Get out of there fast. Tell your parents--PLEASE.
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2007-01-01 16:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say you are horrible, but just how old is he and how old are you??? I mean it's a little different when you get older and aren't a teenager anymore. It would probably cause a lot of problems for both of your families. If you are almost of age and everything and you really love each other I'd keep it on the low for awhile until you at least reach 18. Live life a little before you decide on one person. You never know how you'll feel 5 years from now. I still remember being a teenager and I look back at some of the feelings I had then and they are funny. He's a grown man though and I'm not sure what he's thinking. I matured a lot faster than most of my friends so I kind of understand where you are coming from but I think you really need to make sure you love him or if he's just paying you a lot of attention or the most attention you've ever had. I'm not sure how to answer this the right way because its kind of a brief description of what its all about. I think you should stick to guys your age for awhile and see how you feel then, I'm sure if the older guy really loves you he'd be willing to let you live a little first to make sure he's what you really want. Older guys are settled in life they aren't going to want to party and hang out with all your younger friends all the time. Think about the things you are going to want to do and the things he'll want to do. Sorry that's the best advice I can give you.
2007-01-01 16:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if he's not breaking up with his wife, ur friends mom, he's not into you. He may like kissing you because it is wrong and that might give him a thrill. Think about everything that will happen if your friend finds out. You'll break up her family and become an outcast at school. Your parents will lose respect for you. Get out of this relationship. Don't go to your friends house anymore... If you must, tell the father this cannot continue anymore.
This is wrong on too many levels. Get out now before you hurt a lot of people including yourself!
2007-01-01 16:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by coolchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is WAY wrong, and you may not think he is weird, but from an adult stand point AND someone who has worked in the area. He is really sick and selfish, as are you if you don't think that there are consequences to your actions.
If I were your friend I would feel extremely betrayed by you, ESPECIALLY if you were having a fling with my father. Your actions will affect you and your perception of love and relationships. As well as potentially wreck a marriage, and totally screw your friend over. This is a sick perversion of love and you should talk to your parents or a school counselor or something.
2007-01-01 16:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Starwyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you rnot horrible but dont do this, If hes seriously not a rapist or a child molester.........well thats gross grown men with children/ familys dont fall inlove with teens. Kissing him is going to turn in to more then this if you dont stop. And if you sleep with him and you close family or friends find out Hes gone~ On his way to prision...think about how your friend would feel. Just better stop before things get serious! STOP NOW!
2007-01-01 16:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Angela G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I hope that you realize that there is a fine line that you lust do not cross when it comes to your friends, especially your best friend. Please leave her father alone and if it helps just cut off your friendship with her alltogether before you end up raped. I'm a victim of rape and honey the man that molested me was like a father to me and he told me anything up under the sun and then when he was done with me, he was only using me. Look find someone your own age and leave him alone cause he can go to jail if you are under 18. I'm a mandated reporter so I know what I am talking about. Walk away!!!!!
2007-01-01 22:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but if you are a child then it's WRONG! If you are not 18 years old then you back off and don't go to your friend's house anymore. You know this is wrong, and HE knows it too. He's a child molester! No matter how you put it or try to explain.He's horrible, and he knows better! Stay away from that man by all means and he should be reported!
2007-01-01 16:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by scoodlelou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not "wrong:" but potentially dangerous, esp for him! As long as you go in with your eyes open the sex should be good, older guys usually are must be all the experience and maturity or something. Anyway, just have to keep that quiet since society won't see it that way if word gets out! And BE SAFE about it!
2007-01-01 16:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better not go over there anymore for awhile. Is your friends parents still togeher ? if so.. you are not only wrecking a marriage but destorying a family and your friendship with you best friend. I mean do you want that for you.?? You are still a teen and he is taking advantage of you no matter how old you are and no matter how much you like him .
Your still way young for this guy. If you wanna ruin his life and yours then continue.. but he'll go to prison cus ur under age.And you'll be labled homewrecker and other names...if u need to chat u can contact me.
2007-01-01 16:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's the deal. You are not horrible. It is not wrong. Love moves in many mysterious ways, and is often beyond many people's comprehension, and even myself it took much time to understand it is rarely the same for two people.
2007-01-01 16:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in love with your friend's dad?!
NO! Wrong!!!
First of all, let's just hypothetically say it had a chance of even working out. You would be your friend's stepmom? As if that would ever even happen, but still...
Think about what this could do to your friendship.
He may not be a rapist because he hasn't gotten in your pants yet, but he certainly may have an unhealthy attraction to young girls.
It's just wrong any way you look at it.
2007-01-01 16:45:25 · answer #11 · answered by Me 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋