We have been friends for a long time, and she acted like she liked me though She denied that she did. We got closer and closer over a few months, and now, I try to strategically keep some distance and talk to her a bit less. I am not sure if she likes me, but I feel as if I have hurt her by not going forward. She now seems angry with me and hurt. If I truly like her, should I tell her?
2007-01-01 16:38:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definitely understand why you haven't continued with the relationship because she denied liking you. If you want her then you should pursue but if you are doing it because she is hurt then please don't because you will only end up hurt because it wasn't from YOUR heart and drive to pursue.
2007-01-01 16:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably denied that she liked you because she didn't know if you liked her. The only strategy that you should try is to tell your friends and her friends about how you feel (It's okay for guys to be emotional like that) so that if she hears it from enough people that she can trust, she'll believe them and you won't have to tell her yourself if you're shy about it. Trust is the key; if you tell untrustworthy people, the wrong message may come across. A girl will definately be hurt if she likes someone and they don't like her back. So make sure you get the word around somehow. The communication with the friends almost always works (it worked for my parents when they were in college). It avoids the possible awkwardness or embarassment that may follow the face to face conversation. If you find out from her friends that she likes you and you can believe them, then go ahead and ask her out; nothing would make her happier. But hurry, before she starts liking someone else (meaning: she probably isn't sure who she likes at the moment. Some go through this thing where they're not sure if they should like the same person or like someone else.) On the other hand, if you feel comforable with telling her yourself and you think you know her well enough, then don't hesitate. Do what you need to do depending on how old you are. But don't stress about this too much because chances are, you'll find someone perfect for you later in life. Good luck!
2007-01-02 00:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by bobcat70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you are shy around her than you should practices it first before you do the real thing. But if you tell her and she say no give her a little time and you will recover and move on but if you hold it inside she may never know and you may not get the chance again. Its once in a life time so try and email me at girlskickass2003@yahoo.com and tell me how it goes.
2007-01-02 00:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by RB- is happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should tell her. cause if you do like her than just go for it. but explain to her why you have been acting the way you have been before asking. and if you are one of those type of people who are scared of being rejected or hurt like i once was just ask because you cant live your life on fear and if for some reason you do get rejected just move on because you seem to be a teenage and if i am right you have your rest of you life to find the right girl.
best of luck!
2007-01-02 02:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Littlehime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some way to tell her because you think you hurt her can be miscommunication and not the truth. She may see things quite differently than you do. On the otherhand, anger is hurt turned inside out.
2007-01-02 00:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her the truth, if she got angry with you keeping distance talking to you less probably means she likes your attention and probably likes you as well.
2007-01-02 00:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Biff Stew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. Sit down with and have a conversation about how you like her and explain that that is why you have been distant, and emphasize that your feelings for her won't change your friendship. If she does like you she should inform sometime after you tell her. If she does not she should know that crushes go away with time so your friendship should remain intact.
2007-01-02 00:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dirk D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound familiar of someone that i know but yea u should tell her that u like her don't hide ur feeling just tell her straight up you need to speak up and say somethin cus if u don't she gonna be clueless
2007-01-02 16:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥yessy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her then you should tell her. Why put off things? Tomorrow isn't promised to you.
2007-01-02 00:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by freeme529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES if you like her tell her
2007-01-02 00:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Gordita de Oro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋