My boyfriend got me a necklace for Christmas but it broke, so I'm having him return it. He was going to get me a different one. But, I am 16 and doing a school project and I'm printing a lot of stuff out. My mom doesn't expect me to pay for it, but I feel bad if I use it all up. I really want a necklace but I told my boyfriend to just give me gift cards to Office Max so I can buy one for the family printer and there isn't enough money left over for a necklace, so I told him to get the rest of the money at Target. I guess there is always next year for jewelry. Do you think I should just get the necklace or pay for the ink cartridge?
2007-01-01 16:24:04 · 22 answers · asked by *~*~*~* 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you are being thoughtful about your family....BUT....this was a personal meaningful gift from your boyfriend to you...and I think you should have the necklace replaced with another necklace, and wear it proudly. Possibly you could speak with your mom about the ink and find out if you can do some extra chores to earn some money to help with the ink usage. I have raised 3 kids, and there are certain expenses that I expected to endure, and using ink for a school project was fine, I would have been pleased that my child was putting effort into school! I have a feeling that if you talk to your Mom, she will be fine with you using the ink, and would want you to have the special gift that your boyfriend intended for you to have.
2007-01-01 16:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell me you are returning his necklace he gave as a gift to get your mom a printer cartridge? I would not do this as I think it is very rude to do that to your boyfriend. Offer to do more chores for you mom or something to make up for the printer cartridge. If you start doing that now in life you'll never stop and just piss off everyone. I have a sister in law who pawns gifts off to pay off her bills...she also declares bankruptsy alot to get out of paying off things without really paying them off. Don't start on this road, or else you could potentially keep thinking it's an answer down the road and it isn't. One should not have to do with the other. Think independently and accept the necklace and make a deal with your mom to help out around the house more or take a babysitting job or two to help her out. If she sees you are making an effort you and her will feel better about the whole situation. Don't make other people's gifts your way out, it is rude and it doesn't make you feel better at the end of the day.
2007-01-02 05:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you bf admires your good sense to want to help with the cost of your printing. But he did something romantic for you. That was for you but it must have also made him feel good too. You may not get as nice a necklace but you should tell him what you need for the print cartridge and why. And let him know that you loved the original necklace but it is the sentiment not the price tag that impressed you. Ask him if he would like to use any of the leftover funds to get you something you both pick out at Target.
You may want to stick with a plain gold necklace. He can add a charm to it for your birthday or next Christmas.
2007-01-01 16:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The necklace was a gift for YOU. Your mom doesn't expect you to buy ink for the printer - Can you use the printer at school so you won't feel so bad? Or can you change the setting on your own computer so it doesn't use so much ink? Enjoy the necklace!
2007-01-01 22:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Urbangirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's cool and all that you want to pay for your parents ink. But can't you use the printer's at school or the library or even a friends house? You should think about how that much make your boyfriend feel as well. He probably put thought into picking out that necklace, and got all excited about giving it to you. And now you're just blowing it off because you feel bad about using ink for a school project? Somethings off here. It's not selfish..but it's something.
2007-01-01 16:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by WhitneyR 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a bit rude of you to do that. Your bf bought you a gift - something that he thought you would like and appreciate. The fact that you want him to not get you a replacement necklace, but to pay for a ink cartridge is a little insensitive. He didnt buy a present for your family - he bought it for YOU.
2007-01-01 16:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Minerva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend bought you a necklace because he loves you. It is ungracious of you to even suggest he give you a gift voucher instead, no matter how noble you think your motives are. Accept the necklace and worry about the printer ink some other time.
2007-01-01 16:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not just buy him the necklace and pay for the ink cartridge later? You already said that your mom doesn't expect you to pay for it.
2007-01-01 21:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by AngryAmerican82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may make your boyfriend feel bad. Get the necklace and use your own money to buy the ink.
2007-01-01 16:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're being selfish. Sounds like the ink cartridge is more important to you right now. My suggestion would be to go find a lovely necklace at a thrift shop. Don't have to spend a lot of money and can have fun searching for something just right.
2007-01-01 16:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Brush Hog 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋