We've a 3 year old son who has been well mannered and very attached to us. Recently, we'd a baby daughter and for the first time we sent him to a party with our friends where he stayed for 5 to 6 hours. Our friend told us that he was completely engrossed with other kids and never asked for either of us (his dad or mom). When our friend asked him if he missed us he simply said no with not much resistance. Should we be worried about such a behavior? Is there any way to check the emotional well being of our kid? Please, advise.
2007-01-01 16:20:21 · 17 answers · asked by ahashmi55 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Stop looking for trouble where trouble may not exist. Your child was playing and being kept entertained by other children, of course he was not missing you. You have a well adjusted independent child, and you should be very glad. This means you have done your job well! I too have a very independent child. I will never forget my child on the first day of school. All the other children were hesitant on going in the classroom, some were crying and others wouldn't let go of their parents. My daughter hugged me, gave me a kiss good-bye and said see ya later Mommy! She is an only child, and has always been independent and wanted to do everything just like her Daddy and myself. Now that you have a daughter, your son is showing signs of becoming a little more independent, he's getting to be a big boy...
2007-01-01 16:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most kids go through certain stages of separation reactions. Two to three year olds tend to have a period of Independence, then go back to the clingy thing. Enjoy this time, and give him chances to enjoy himself away from you. It sure beats a kid who screams and clutches whenever you try to leave them.
Even clingy kids will normally have fun for a while after the trauma of separation fades away at this age, as long as there is fun to be had, although they don't always react to talking about mommy and daddy well. The kids that do not adjust so well to the being left are babes up to about 2.
2007-01-02 01:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazy_kizmet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel insecure, he still loves and needs you, the party was just a good distraction and hes learning about independance, its all a part of growing up, and at least you know he will be happy if left with the friend for baby sitting...
2007-01-02 01:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that he's able to stand on his own independently. I used to work with 3 year old children (believe me, I look very different than my avatar in person) and some of those kids would freak out when their parents left.
Just because he didn't miss you then doesn't mean that he won't miss you ever.
2007-01-02 00:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a child that age to be involved in play and not miss his parents. It sounds like you have a problem with letting go.
The fact that he was with friends probably helped him feel at ease. You should be glad that he is able to separate from you so easily ---it will be much better when he starts school if he can do that.
2007-01-02 07:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to worry about.It could be few things that went on with him.Time flyes when you have fun.He didn't realized how long he was away.His first party.He was amused and liked the crowed.Or the most commen one,he feels replaced,doesn't like the new baby,needs more attention from his mom.It used to be him,now there is someone else.Give him more time to adjust.He'll be fine.
2007-01-02 01:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! ;-) He was just having fun with other kids. He's getting to a social age so it's good that he isn't pining away for you (although I know from experience it can kinda make you feel sad!) Personally I think it shows you haven't overcoddled him to the point he can't function without you and that's a good thing!
2007-01-02 00:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty well rounded to me. He is enjoying play with his peers and time away from the baby now being part of what was his center of attention. It sounds like he is a happy normal kid to me. Kudos to you both!
2007-01-02 05:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no reason to be worried. He was having fun and being amused by the other children. I am sure if the other kids weren't around it would have given him time to miss the two of you.
2007-01-02 00:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg you like sound more like we should be worried about your emotional well being. DONT be hurt by this dont. dont try to diagnose this. he is just being independant and that just means in the long run he will be able to care of himself when he is older. i was independant when i was younger too. and now i am 18 joined the army and will be attending penn state university
2007-01-02 00:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by blackprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋