I can't stop thinking about someone that I met online a few months ago and ended a relationship with. We never met face to face but spoke on the phone. I now regret ending it. The guy that proposed is sweet but he doesn't do anything for me and he is moving way too fast. I now wish I had allowed myself a chance to meet my online guy face to face. What would you do? I haven't given an answer and I have told him many times he is moving way too fast.
I know this scenario is flaky but, honestly, what would you do?
2007-01-01 16:04:47 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the guy you're marrying is moving too fast, then tell him that.
Don't throw him away over some internet guy who may just be a fling.
Keep the sweet guy who wants to marry you, just tell him the TRUTH!!!
2007-01-01 16:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you don't have to say yes to the guy that proposed if you're not yet ready. it's always best to be very ready beore you say yes to someone (especially emotionally).
you met someone online and you can't stop thinking about him? also you mean that you had a relationship with him? is it possible to have a relationship with someone you never met? that's risky. also i don't think you should regret ending it.
you never met him yet, so how can you feel something strong for him when all you know about him is what he tells you online? for all you know, he might be a bad man.
maybe the reason that you long for the online guy is because of the way you two conduct the conversations and other stuff. you are still in control of what's happening (well some of it). unlike this other guy who's moving way too fast for you. i understand that you are geting quite overwhelmed by what he's doing. if he doesn't want to slow down, then it's his problem. but you should not let yourself be forced into something you're not ready to do yet. if he really loves you, he'll wait for you to be ready.
as for the online guy, get back to reality. stop thinking about him. yeah you might like him now. but tell that to yourself after you have really seen him. i've heard a lot of those stories where they say they really like the online person, but suddenly loses interest once they see them.
2007-01-01 16:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give an answer to the guy who proposed to you yet until you are sure you know what you want. If you're second-guessing and wondering what it's like to be with this other person, I say you resolve that issue first. The guy who proposed to you may not be the right guy and if he was, you would know it without a doubt. Follow your heart and go with your gut. If you're not sure, he probably is not it. Just move forward and a couple of years from now, you'll be able to look back and say you're glad you didn't go through it it. Time's always the best solution!
2007-01-01 16:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shew, thats a mess, well if u have to think about the marrige, then I wouldn't be so sure of it, I always imagine my perfect marrige proposal as being timed just right, and that should be something that if your ready for it, then you know the answer, u see? Now, I'd break this proposal off, and give myself a lil while, then try to find your other guy. Just remember marrige is the real deal, the big $hit, the begging of the rest of your life.
2007-01-01 16:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately say that you need more time!!! If you have any doubts what-so-ever you shouldn't do it. This guy online could be the one for you! I met a guy online and we have been close for 2 years now. It works out wonderfully. If anything I would give myself a chance to meet this guy online and spend some time with him before making any major decisions!! Good Luck!
2007-01-01 16:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question then it doesn't sound like that this guy is what your after.
But, are you only asking it cause your scared to commit yourself seriously to someone who loves you?
That step is a huge step to take.
Think only of him and ask yourself if he will make you happy?
And as for the other guy remember that you ended it for a reason! Just because you had a little fun on-line and on the phone doesn't mean that you should ask yourself what if?
You should be looking at what's right in front of you and seeing what you already have!
2007-01-01 16:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not ready to marry this guy so DONT! Tell him that you arent ready to get married yet. If he doesnt understand then he is not the right guy for you and you need to move on. Never get married until you have been happily together for a long time, like at least 3 years, and both of you are truly in love.
2007-01-01 16:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel you are ready and he is moving too fast then thats what it really is. You have to be comfortable and really love the guy. If you are having doubts now then tell your man that its too soon and you need some space and tell him you will let him know when you are ok with taking the next step and not jumping to the final end. Then date who you wish and it will work itself out from there. good luck.
2007-01-01 16:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by vanillabeancheesecake37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy what you already have, it is just too fast. besides if you do not have feelings for him then it is the smart thing to tell him no. Do not be in a hurry to marry. Also the guy from on line, do not base your life plans on someone who you have never met. It is easy to paint a rosy picture about yourself via e-mail or the telephone. The only way to truly get to know some one is to spend time with them one on one.
2007-01-01 16:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Paca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy who proposed no if you wish...
BUT do it because you aren't ready to commit to him, not because of an internet guy. Internet relationships don't always work out and I wouldn't pass up someone because you know someone online for a few months. Say no because you cannot commit to this guy proposing.
2007-01-01 16:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by ??? LadyBoyd ??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy that proposed doesn't do anything for you, then definitely don't consider spending your life with him. That would be an enormous mistake.
I'm not sure what I'd do about the online person. I'd first try to figure out what to do with the current relationship before anything else.
2007-01-01 16:13:24 · answer #11 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋