Yes, my lovely boyfriend has been deceived...
I popped the cherry with a Polish guy who had a girlfriend and was a total ******** and only wanted to get laid. Sadly I found this out after the deed was done...
So in my mind, I told myself it never happened. It worked because I didn't feel sad or bad about the incident, because as I saw it, there was no incident.
Then I met G, my current boyfriend, and a month or so into the relationship, when everything was perfect and things were getting unbearably passionate, I told him I didn't want to have sex. He said that's fine, but asked why out of curiosity. I didn't know what to say and the first thing that came out of my mouth was "I don't want to lose my virginity to just anyone" - oh F%CK!!!
The problem here is that G absolutely HATES liars more than any other person or thing in the universe.... I don't know if I should tell him! Should I? And why? I don't want to lose what we have because of this huge deception, or am I exaggerating?
2007-01-01 16:01:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anne S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have had sex now, and he prides himself on the fact that he "took my virginity".... I feel so guilty when it comes up >.<
2007-01-01 16:16:07 · update #1
I think you should. Tell him: When i met you i was confused inside of me and i didn't know if this relation was going to work out, but as i am getting to know you i like you more and more, so there is something you should know. and there you tell him. If you love him tell him, and if he loves you he will stay, if not then be sincere with your next boyfriend.
2007-01-01 16:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are exaggerating ... But I think you should be honest cause that what a relationship is all about honesty and connection... So if you just tell him that maybe your realtionship would go a step farher into in ... You dont have to have sex make your realtinship happy just be honest ... That stupid guy who used you is stupid cause he think he is a bigger man you know what I am saying... well thats my answer tell him then your head could be clear with out anything going through your mind
2007-01-01 16:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are if you slept with a Polish guy he didn't pop anything.
Men are clueless anyway and if you decide to sleep with him; you can always say you went horseback riding or something. The reason he probably hates liars so much is because he did (or is doing) a lot of it.
You are exaggerating the situation
Don't sweat it sweetie
2007-01-01 16:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just try to explain it to him the same way you explained it to us. Tell him that you really don't want to have sex because you've done it too soon in the past and you ended up hurt. Tell him that you tried to block the incident from your mind because it hurt, but now you realize that you have to face up to your mistakes. If he understands, it might help your relationship because he'll know that he can trust you. If you don't tell him, he'll trust you, but you won't deserve it.
2007-01-01 16:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dollface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell G the truth. Since you haven't had sex with anybody else but that Polish a**hole, even if you have sex with G, he won't be able to tell that it's not your first time.
Also, most guys do not want to know about any other guy that their girl has been to bed with - so G really doesn't want to know if you've ever been with another guy, so why tell him?
2007-01-01 16:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it to your grave sister ....cause at the end of the day ....it really dont matter
2007-01-01 16:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dave S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, then you should have been honest; you cannot unring the bell once you have lied. Just plan to lose this guy because you lied to him.
2007-01-01 16:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I THIINK THAT YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD HIM THE TRUTH
FROM THE BEGINNING, NOW YOU MAY LOSE A GOOD GUY
FOR THIS, IT REALLY PAY TO BE HONEST WITH THE PERSON THAT YOU CARE FOR.
2007-01-01 16:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take this secret to your grave.
2007-01-01 16:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u plan to continue to go out with g then TELL HIM!!!!!!
2007-01-01 17:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋