I just need other opinions on this......my bf and i are very much in love and lately we have been arguing over everything. He never seems to have time for me anymore and i asked if there was anyone else and he says no....i do believe him.......then i continued to tick him off because i told him i wanted to take home everything that was mine from his house....i really don't want to break up with him, but i also don't want to be broken-up with so even though i still love him more than anything in this world, Should i just take my things back and end it first so i don't get hurt again? What would you do?
2007-01-01 15:53:28 · 16 answers · asked by pritty_princess_c 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you love him, that's wonderful, it's great to be in love. It's not an easy road. Sometimes love is hot one day and then it's warm. Arguments happen, that's a fact. If you want him to pay more attention to you, give him some space and see what happens. If he loves you, he'll be calling. Tell him how you feel, communicate. As far as your things go, it shouldn't matter if you take them or not.
If he gets upset if you do, tell him why you're taking them, hopeful he'll listen. Being in love is great, being out of love is ok too, you really shouldn't need someone to make yourself happy.
2007-01-01 16:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by emptysky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you love him as much as you say you do, I wouldn't be concerned with who dumps who. If you get dumped so what?? There is obviously something bothering him or you wouldn't be arguing all the time. Maybe sitting down and having a heart to heart might help, instead of asking if there is someone else how about is there something I need to do to make our relationship better?? Or I feel like we are drifting apart and I don't want to lose you?? Guys usually just get pissed when you start asking if there is someone else. If you honestly feel like he's fixing to break it off I would go ahead and get my stuff because that way when its over its over. I just don't see how ending it first will make it not hurt.
2007-01-01 16:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sweety first of all, I wish you the best of luck on whatever you decide to do.My opinion is I would just let him breath..u too! Just back up for alittle while.If you let something go and it comes back to you, its yours. Its not about who breaks up with who.Give him a day or two to cool off.Maybe you guys are too close or you're smutthering each other.Maybe he just needs time away to see what he wants.Dont jump the gun yet! Stick around, see where the relationship is going and as soon as you see it slipping (You'll know when.When you just dont want to do it anymore! you know its not going anywhere! you dont wanna take his shyt no more) then cut him loose.You can do better.You dont want to be with someone who dosent have time for you, theres plenty of guys who will make time for u! Good Luck and Happy New Year...Out with The Old And In With The New
2007-01-01 16:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question you probably already know the answer.
So ask yourself this.
Are you subconsciously self destructing this relationship out of a fear that you will get hurt when it ends?
Do you honestly trust him?
If you did would be asking him if there was another in the first place?
Is it a lack of trust in him or a lack of trust in yourself?
Are your actions pushing him away and in turn he is distancing himself from you?
If you end it won't you be hurting yourself?
If you truly love each other wouldn't you do whatever it takes to make it work?
Don't let your fears and doubts get the best of you.
All the best
2007-01-01 16:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Spandito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he hasnt said that its over then maybe he really is just busy... I think that by taking all your things may make things worse. sometimes guys just need space. If you crowd em too much then they r sure to run and if you try to create a prob thats really not there which seems the case here... things are sure to be screwy. I think that you guys should just sit down and talk about it. Ask him if he still wants to be with you and if he does then I think that you should apologize to him. Just give him his space girl he cant miss ya if you are always around.
2007-01-01 16:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go away for a weekend or go on a vacation together. Do new things have new experiences together. Sometimes we get tire of the same things over and over again. Follow your insticts too, do what you feel is the better things to do.
2007-01-01 15:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Alde228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space and dont smother him, dont take things back, they are just material things,
If u love him , get along with him and dont argue back with him.
He will have time for u more if u just listen more and dont argue back.
Give him a good back massage next time ya see him.
2007-01-01 15:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, when relationships start to get serious, then the fighting begins. You and/or your boyfriend are getting close and you don't want too get to serious. So, to keep it from getting too serious, fights start that will lead to a break up of the relationship.
If he is starting fights, he wants out of the relationship and he doesn't know how to tell you. If you both are starting fights, its time for both of you to move on.
2007-01-01 16:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out if there some other girl first see if he lies like where he is going and what he is doing before you break up may be he just needs time for him self
2007-01-01 16:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by sergio g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt break up with him but i would take my stuff. mabey you guys have just been in each others personal space a lil to much . so mabey you can relax if you guys have some space. tell him though that you feel that you need more of his time.
2007-01-01 15:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋