I have a son and a daughter, both three years of age (my daughter is adopted). Yesterday, I walked in on the two of them in my husband and I's bedroom with their pants down in front of the large mirror looking at each others genitals and giggling. Is this behavior normal? Shold I be concerned at all?
2007-01-01 15:44:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, this is perfectly normal, especially considering the age. Being as though she is adopted, it doesn't make it unusual or sexual. They are just young and eagar to learn. However, you must let them know that although you understand their curisosity, there are boundaries. "Mommy knows that you may be wondering the difference between each other, and I see that you two have already found out. However they are called privates for a reason. They are not to be shared with anyone. They're your little secrets! So keep them seceret ok? Don't share them with anyone... not even each other. Ok?" or something of the sort... Lol... Email me and let me know what you chose to do.
2007-01-01 15:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simple fact that they are both three years old is enough for me to answer, No you certainly have no need to be concerned. I would have a little talk maybe mentioning that you saw them looking at each other's bodies and giggling. I would simply say that now that you know what each other looks like, it is not proper for little girls and little boys to look at each other's privates again. Your private parts are not for other people to see, so let's keep our clothes on from now on, ok.Smile at them so they know you are not mad, and don't mention it again. The bigger deal you make of it, the bigger deal it will become with them. My guess is, they have satisfied their curiosity and now it is a thing of the past. Don't let their precious giggles and innocent curiosity stir up any more questions in your mind. Now go give those babies a big hug and be glad they are only three!
2007-01-01 16:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure it was all completely innocent. Kids are curious. As long as they're not touching each other, i wouldn't be concerned. Maybe just tell them that it is their own private area, and that no one should touch them there except if mum or dad need to (help wiping, medical ect) or a Dr. they also need to know they should TELL if someone does!
They may be a bit too young to understand, but if you start drumming it into them now, it will help in the long run!
2007-01-01 16:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal!! They look completely different and think the other looks funny. I don't blame them...however once it goes from noticing a difference in appearance to something else, then you need to do something. I would think as long as there is no touching of each other or anything weird like that, you have no reason to be concerned.
Good luck, Mom!! ;)
2007-01-01 15:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I would not be concerned...It is totally normal! They are just curious about their bodies and the fact they are totally different. I have 3 girls and was babysitting a baby boy when my daughter asked me if he had a tumor!!!! My friends 3 yr old son saw my daughter being changed at one point and asked why she had 2 butts! I wouldn't worry :P
2007-01-01 15:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by marymojo2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal !!! They are learning that they are different from each other! Acknowledge their responses, answer their questions, teach them about their privates and about good touch bad touch (no child is too young to learn that!) Most of all, lighten up and have a giggle yourself it's all part of growing up!
2007-01-01 15:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by rhorho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their curiosity is starting, they want to know what makes them different and it just seems funny to them, I wouldn't be too concerned with this, as it is a form of exploration, but do keep an eye to see if this behavior becomes more frequent, if so, speak to your pediatrician in how to handle a situation like this....
2007-01-01 15:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A scary thing to walk in on! I think because they are so young they are just interested or curious about each other and being silly- if they were giggiling- have a chat with them about, well, keeping their pants on and how they are not supposed to do that (it may provoke them to do more, though) or just keep them in view all the time and back sure they don't take baths together, steer them away from any influence.....
2007-01-01 15:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Gangsteer 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
they do not understand the concept of incest or anything similiar in grotesqueness. i think its important to explain to them that although they should not be ashamed of their bodies, they should not be willing to show them at any given time. (like tostrangers!) but i think its completely natural for them to explore bodies just like they explore everything else in the world..genitals are no different than lego pieces to them. lol. if it becomes incessant and continues as they get older, a bit more action will probably be in order
2007-01-01 15:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mackenzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are at the age where they begin to understand that boys and girls are different. This is normal and healthy, so you should not freak out about is. However, you may want to talk to them about it when you see them do this, just to better explain that it is just that boys & girls look different.
2007-01-02 00:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋