Serious Answers Only! Please Dont Make fun of my situation. This is tearing my life apart
My b/f has gone to a couple of strip clubs, he looks at porn and has all these sexy girls in his myspace top 8 that he's met. He just started doing this just a few months ago and we've been together for two years now.Because of all this I feel devestated, hurt, unworthy and ugly and fat.I know most of you will tell me to leave him, but you cant even imagine the history we shared.I just cant!Please help me.I know I cant get him to stop looking at porn, but to sneak on my grandmothers computer and look at it in her home all the time is flat out disrespectful..I just want him to reduce the amount of time he spends looking at that sh!t and to do it in his OWN HOME.Its running his life
Question 1: How do I tell him how I feel without sounding whiny?
Question 2: How do I get my confidence back?
Question 3: What should I even do about this entire fiasco..without breaking it off??
Thanks
2007-01-01 15:30:35 · 10 answers · asked by ~Love is Blonde~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you shouldnt feel that way. Second I think you should tell him to go to counseling or to a psychologist.
2007-01-01 15:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by B9O9R9I9C9U9A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
him looking at porn in your grandparents home is a NO No. This you must tell him. Just be straightforward with him and tell him"you MUST stop using my grandparents computer to view porn now or you are not welcome to their house anymore" you are right it's disrespectful and i don't know why you need people on Yahoo answers to tell you that.
I think he knows that you luck confidence thats why he is treating you like that. i understand that most men do view porn but they do not have to be disrespectful towards their g/friends. i know you do not want to hear it but you deserve better and need to leave this guy. No matter what history you two share, you need to be respected, so dump that fool of a BOY.
break if off, there is no other solution no matter how much you want another solution.
2007-01-01 15:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I know I'm not a guy but I'm gonna answer anyways. It really depends on the type of guy. But yeah a lot of guys like innocent girls, and some like dumb girls who pretend the have a brain of a 5 yr old. But most guys aren't usually attracted to the type of girl who "pretends" to be dumb and innocent for an actual relationship since I could understand that they would easily get bored with that kind of girl since she acts like she doesn't know anything. And the guys ur talking about probably only give her that kind of attention when she's around becuz they know they can easily use her and then dump her. Sooo yeah
2016-03-29 04:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, it's time for you to end the relationship, or give him JUST one more chance to act like a real man to you. No more myspace go-go-girls, such shlT.
He disrespect you..period... and you are taken advantage by him.
You are his gf, you should set some rules. No need to compromise. Life is too short to deal with this nonsense.
it seems he stops communicate with you, and test your limit now (of how much he can get away, he's the type of man who will cheat in marriage).
Using grandmother's pc to porno surf is sign of disrespect and out-of-control. Ask him to go to counseling, and you ask for ultimatum.
Never let any man do this SHlT to you.
2007-01-01 15:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by antiodsxxcandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're boyfriend isn't dating those top 8 girls, or those strippers is he? Then you don't need to be worried about them.
But there is an underlying problem here, and it's not with him....it's with you.
You first need to realize, that there are alot of hotter girls out there than you. There are alot more girls who are hotter than me! Men are prone to look at other women. So what? He's not professing his love to them. He is doing that to you. Same thing with the strip clubs. He just goes to see t and a. So, that leads me to this, are you giving him enough attention? Are you nagging him about random stupid things? Did you get huffy about some stupid little annvesry like "the day you first kissed"?
Well, guess what, get over it. Men are simple creatures. If you stroke their ego, feed them well, LOVE THEM, and give them what they need, they will walk over lava to bring you a tissue.
ANd for the porn at you're grandmothers, yeah, thats kinda gross. tell him to stop that, cuz thats not cool.
As for how to confront him, do it after sex (if you two are having sex, if not, then after dinner) You can't get mad at each other after sex. (or dinner) Be calm about it, be direct and LISTEN TO HIM.
There maybe some things that he wants you to do, and you aren't. Just remember, button your lip while he talks and listen, and you might learn why he goes to seeks out porn and strippers.
2007-01-01 15:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Q1. Just tell him that you don't like it because it dis-respects you.
Q2. Leave the guy. It is unlikely that he is going to change. I am sorry, but your history has come to an end! It is time to move on. the only way you will get your confidence back is if you respect yourself and only look for guys that will respect you. It appears that he is bored with you and has already moved on. You should also!
Q3. There is only one way out -- LEAVE with your self respect.
2007-01-01 15:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about him possibly having a porn addiction? I date a guy like that. We talked about it, we fought about it, and I was miserable. In the end we broke up and I have now found a wonderful guy who treats me like gold and makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Change is hard, but sometimes it's worth it.
2007-01-01 15:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,Im hoping you are of age for my answer.You should maybe loosen up,relax and watch the porn with him.dont be so insecure if you have zero intentions of leaving then your gonna have to suck it up!! trust me hes not gonna stop looking at porn on the internet so your options are leave him or join him!!And remember that you are a beautiful,sey goddess!!
2007-01-01 15:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by sugarmama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can be like me and git beat up for the holidays by my girlfriend of 3 yrs she gave me no consideration when i asked her to stop playing on here having god knows how many people you may enjoy sharing with the community i really dont you can break it up now and be not so sad or you can wait down the line when you can be like me and see them on a site like i saw my so called girlfriend when i guess i was living a fantasy they did not want me every thing i did for them was just not quite right maybee you should stay with them and wait till it gits worse and watch while they drive down the road just watch them rubber neck one of there persons there cheeting withs houses maybee you should tell them how you feel like i did and they tell me to shut up because i care and i want to care about them just wait till you uncover things like when they call there friends over for a slip into the hottub and they expect you to service every one there like my girlfriend did to me breaking up for me is horrible and im very hurt but if i didnt and dont stick to my decision i will be even more sorry later so you decide maybee you should hold on to you 1\2 relationship and keep living a fantasy that by being intimate that it means something to that other person or you can keep talking till your blue in the face like i did how do you think i feel when i have shared everything with that person and its like they gave me a big bag of dodo for breakfast there not getting off anytime soon but they want me to accept them the way they are while they sniff arround na i think i will be lonely before i have anymore of that krap
2007-01-01 15:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by peter w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna tell you to leave him if it just startin then work it out. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't change then dump him but if he does keep him simple as that.
2007-01-01 15:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hot_chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋