his mind against them ? When this is far from the truth, he has made his own decision to cut off with them.
2007-01-01 15:25:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because they seem to depise you, Tell Them, "I'll pray for you all...", Nobody should be judgmental of you but you know who, the big man upstairs himself...They're really the kind that are closed minded and it's not healthy, sounds to me that they need to work on their values in life.
2007-01-01 15:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea the in-laws are the worst. LOL. My mother in law thinks he son is god and never does anything wrong yet she doesnt know half the stuff her son has done. and what lies he has told. I use talk to her and tell her things she needs to know, she is on a needs to know basis.He cant cut them off. Would you like if your son stop talking to you. He needs to talk to her and tell them how it is and let them make the decision if they would like to have you in there life.
2007-01-01 23:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. If you bite back at them, it just satisfies them.
I was in the same situation with my in-laws and I just ignored them. After a while they came around and realised that my hubby has a mind of his own and he really does love me and most of them a friendly with me now. Some of them still don't like me and couldn't even be bothered remembering my name, but I just stay away from those family members.
It may take a couple of years, hang in there. It will get better.
2007-01-01 23:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't admit to be wrong about anything, no matter what it is. If things don't go their way it is everyone's fault except their own. They have decades to raise him and if he has decided to cut them off its perhaps with very good reason. You can suggest, he and/or his parents seek professional help, but don't push this.
As for you, tell them, they are not allowed to speak to you in such a cruel way. Any problems they may have with their son, should be taken up with him directly. If they continued to attempt to speak to you in such a harsh manner, tell them you aren't going to speak with them anymore because you aren't going to put up with terrible treatment. Do not allow them to continue to speak to you in a horrible manner like this. They think you have to listen because you are family and you don't. Tell them they owe you an apology.
Yes, it would be great if everyone in every family got along great like on TV such as the Brady Bunch, but this is real life. If you subject yourself to someone who treats you badly, you avoid them, but with family they have to know you aren't going to put up with it. Again, tell them they owe you an apology. Someone who can't apologize for treating you badly, either friend or family isn't worthy of your company.
2007-01-02 00:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a mil from hell and I have dealt with the same thing. I tried to handle it myself, but all my husband did was take up for her, until he seen some things on his owns which made him stop coming around her as much, and of course she thought I put him up to that. Your husband should have your back, and protect you from whom ever and what ever.
2007-01-02 05:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by neenarosdee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that what matters is that the two of you are in love and then just ignore them. Your spouse should stick up for you and sever relationship with his parents if necessary.
2007-01-01 23:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need to mind their own business and there is a reason why the son is not talking to them
2007-01-02 00:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know its not your fault they are trying to make you feel guilty parents cant blame there own children so they blame others because maybe he has found love and freedom love is okay but freedom from them no that is just the way some parents are goodluck
2007-01-02 00:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by reinamndz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you dont control your husband and if he wanted to contact them he would. My husband dropped his parents and sisters many years ago and they still think I am resoponsible for that. But I dont control him he can pick up the phone all by himself and doesnt.
2007-01-02 00:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING! It is best to let your husband handle his parents because nothing that you could say would be good enough for them if they have their mind set that you are "the problem"....it is up to your husband to set the boundries in their relationship and to stand by your side. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-01 23:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋