I m in a terrible situation.. can someone tell me what should i do?

Question

My boyfriend went back to his homeland to visit his relatives this winter holiday.. i miss him tons, but just.. something else happened.
One of his best friends is a nice guy, he's a perfect gentleman and very considerate and of course he never would think to do anything bad to his frds. Anyhow, we are good frds to begin with and we talk alot all the time. We spent alot of time together since we are bored and nothing else to do. So on New Year's Eve I went over to this best frd's house to hang out, since like everyone in his house is around we are okay to be in his room where we can talk freely. We went up to his room and we just talked about stuff again, and just fooled around. And just at one point he asked if i was sleepy, cause he was and we just lied on the bed together cause we talk that way. When we turned and we realized our heads is pretty close together and we kinda cuddled from there.
I have mixed feelings. I always thought he was a better guy but i met my bf first.

Answer 1

Oh goodness...the ultimate dilemma! You are already committed to your bf, whom you met first, but this other guy is the one that really does it for you! There are two equally opposing arguments that are in conflict: one is that you already made a committment and have to stick with it. You can't have an affair with every person who comes along. You're always going to potentially find others attractive...but being committed means you forsake all others. If you do this, you get loyalty and unconditional love. If you cheat or break up, you are being fickle and disloyal and don't have the strength of your convictions/will. ON THE OTHER HAND, you are not married. You can't help it if your bf is less compatible with you than the newer guy you connect with more. Should you really "tolerate" a guy that you might love but are not as infatuated with? If you forsee a future with this new guy is the other guy holding you back? Are you just with him out of a sense of duty or guilt? You should marry a person you find best for you. But you don't know if your bf's friend feels the same way. I understand your experience deeply. I wish I had an answer. I would say to follow your heart, but you should also follow your convictions (which are also dear to your heart). In these cases, I would just give it time, see what develops, and don't do anything rash (like cheating). Eventually, the decision will be more clear, I hope! Good luck! :]

Answer 2

1. Break up with your boyfriend first if you want to go out with him.
Don't play games in this situation. If you want to be good enough for a gentleman. you have to be a lady. Just getting alone and cuddling with him was I think a little too far. But it happens so do not worry about that. it sounds to me your dating a "for now" boyfriend. 1 Make a list of good qualities of your past boyfriends if you have any. And add in things your "ideal" boyfriend would have. Put the list in order of importance in a relationship to you. Get the top ten and compare each of these guys to it. Your feelings for them will change and grow over time, but how they treat you will not.

Answer 3

First off lonely or not you should have never put yourself in that situation with his best friend. Your love for him can't be that strong if he can't even go visit his family without you nearly falling into the arms of his best friend because you claim you miss him and were bored with nothing else to do. Sounds to me as if you were and still possibly are inviting trouble into your relationship. Mixed feelings? I don't think so. I think you know what is going on in your mind and you know it is wrong and very unfair to your boyfriend.

Answer 4

First of all, you don't love your boyfriend if you can do that to him. I don't even think of cheating on my bf I would never ever NEVER do that to him. You know why? Because I love him and I know I do, I know what love is. You on the other hand have no idea. When you love someone you don't do that to them. I hope your boyfriend finds out and dumps you, you are a horrible person! People like you make me so angry. Can't your boyfriend that you "love and miss" so much just go to visit his ******* family without you being so damn "lonely and bored" and "cuddling" with his best friend. Come on now, his best friend at that! His so called best friend is no kind of friend to you or him. If he was he would respect you and your boyfriend and would not have let that happen. Are you sure you just "cuddled" with him!?! I could go on and on about this but I just see myself saying mean things and I'm not going to do that. Later!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

you are kind of in a bad position. because you don't have u'r bf with you so you want the love and affection that you are missing. the fact that you kind of already liked this guy helped too. you need to think about who you would be happier with and if you are risking any friendships. but none the less, it is never okay to cheat on u'r bf, which is what you just did. you need to first tell u'r bf what happened and then you can decided what to do.

Answer 7

Be honest with yourself as well as your boyfriend. Follow your heart. It's not fair to either you or your boyfriend if your heart is somewhere else. Or better yet, don't commit to being with any one guy until you are sure you can commit to that person. Either play the field and don't be serious with any one person, or find one person and remain faithful to them.

Answer 8

DAMN! It would have been better if you told him before all this. but tell him as soon as possible. He is going to be mad at first but you gain a little respect when you tell him up front rather than letting him find out .........or worst hearing it from someone else.

Answer 9

Sounds like you need to talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. Do it as soon as possible. You should not let him think that everything is fine when it is not. Good luck...

Answer 10

1) You are vulnerable, lonely and reacted because of this.
2)He is not the better guy, if he does this on his friend.
3)Don't get yourself into intimate situations if you are not prepared to follow through, without guilt, without freedom to do so.
4)Ask yourself, who, do you really want.