When I initiate that I'm in the mood, my boyfriend more than half of the time turns me down. When we do have sex, I always have the make the first move and basically seduce him. We've been together for a little over a year now and have sex maybe once a week. Sex isn't everything to me but I do miss the intimacy. I also want to be seduced longer than a few minutes and actually have nice sex once in a while. I've sat down and expressed how I feel about this to him and nothing has really changed. I've tried showing him how to turn me on and it escapes his mind. How can I become more intimate with him??
2007-01-01 15:24:01 · 11 answers · asked by bri 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wear some very revealing clothes, and see if he doesn't initiate.
2007-01-01 15:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by gregj_uva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm not religious and I think waiting till you know someone is good but just not doing anything is really weird I think you are pushing him away. The fact that he's so patient I think is very rare these days. You should not do anything you are uncomfortable with but there are many other things you can do to be intimate without actually having sex. Sex is a healthy part of life he may be worried that you are not sexual at all which can really effect a persons self esteem. Come up with things that are sexual but have lines of what you don't want to do. Put yourself in his shoes and think how you would feel if everytime you touched him he pushed you away it can hurt a lot. Sounds like he's trying to be understanding again I'm not religious so I may not get it. You need to either meet him halfway or overtime he's probably going to feel crappy and give up.
2016-05-23 04:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly it sounds you are doing everything right. Maybe he has had bad experiences before you. Work at slowly getting him in the mood without him feeling pressured. Possibly games / toys could be useful, just make sure he is not embarrassed. Best of Luck.
2007-01-01 15:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dudders 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn patience, or move on.
I've been in that situation and most of the time it's a mental issue with your b/f and sometimes completely out of your control.
Try spicing things up if possible, role playing, toys, etc.
2007-01-01 15:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what I do is try to make things more fun. Like buy lingerie, get sex toys, I used to read erotica and it gave me a lot of ideas. Good luck I don't know what time does but man do get like that sometimes.
2007-01-01 15:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Alde228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds really weird honestly.... a pretty girl with a boyfriend having a problem with too little sex?
Sorry, that's the best I can come up with. :-(
2007-01-01 15:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would work on any shortcomings I had that were fixable .
on the physical attraction side of this relationship.
Work out . Cleanliness well dressed . sexxy, Provocative
And most important try to please him.. Selfishness in a sexual relationship is the biggest turn off.
2007-01-01 15:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could've lost interest in you.
Maybe he had a previous experience that didn't go so well
It could also be that he's going through problems.
or he could also be gay.
So many possibilities.
But anywhoo.
Good luck with that.
2007-01-04 14:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it his problem not yours.
so you cant change him.
guys tend to get comfortable with us gals after they know we aint going anywhere.
the key is to find a way deal with this or get him interested in working with you on your needs and concerns.
2007-01-01 15:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your self a friend with benefits it worked for me
2007-01-01 15:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by sergio g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋