Okay I have been with my bf for almost a year... and i dont have proof that hes cheated on me.. but i think he has??? Why doesnt this bother me?? And i love him so much.. is it cuz i love him so much??
2007-01-01 15:21:30 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know why but I would find it very hard to love a person who has betrayed me in such a way! I think you should expect better and not allow yourself to be treated so shabbily. He will do what you let him do. Once a cheater, always a cheater! You sound like a young person, do not let this guy do this because if you were to marry one day this would only get worse! He will eventually end up leaving you for another who has more self respect. Love yourself a little more and don't let guys walk on you! You deserve better!
2007-01-01 15:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you don't believe it bothers you because your own self-esteem is so wrapped up in him that you are in denial. If he did, he is so unworth another minute of your time it's ridiculous. I don't believe your love is being requited if he has done this to you.
Please think about whether or not you believe everything in your world would "fall apart" without him. If so - you really need a self-confidence boost. When you love someone and that person does something to completely betray your trust, you are naturally hurt deeply. I think you may be disguising it in acting as if nothing is wrong. Think it's time for a long talk with your boyfriend - and a good kick out the door if you discover he's cheated.
2007-01-01 15:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 13:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out honestly I don't think you love him as much as you say you do. I think you either don't want to be alone, or already have feelings for someone else whether you know it or not yet. but if his cheating doesn't bother you then you have to accept the fact that you really don't love him cause if you did you would be devestated, hurt and angry with him. That's how love would react. So maybe you need to be honest with yourself for yourself, and don't waste time being with a person you know you don't belong with. And if he did cheat I promise you for a fact that he doesn't love,respect, or care for you at all or else he wouldn't have cheated on you. So take either side of this advice coin but both sides obviously say you need to move on for your own sake.
2007-01-01 15:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Xander : Crimson Angel of Logic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you haven't had any proof of him cheating on you makes you feel like it doesn't matter but I think it does otherwise you wouldn't be thinking about it not bothering you. And I suppose the fact that you love him makes your mind blind sided to think he could ever do such a thing.
2007-01-01 15:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by bri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why most people care if there other is cheating is it show that they can be replaced or they can go out the door.
Many fall under the illusion that there are the last one and no one els can be as good as them. Then there are others yet few who are truly secure in there self and say if you can find better do be it.
2007-01-01 15:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't want to think your bf cheated on you because you love him so much, and this causes you to just want to deny the possibiltiy that he cheated, or, maybe you just don't love him that much, because if you loved him a-lot , how could you not be bothered at the thought he may have cheated, when people who love each other a-lot "definitely" would want their partners faithfulness??
2007-01-01 15:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Zacklee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because you don't know for positive that he is cheating. Things might change drastically if you did find something out--You probably don't love him as much as you think you do. That kind of betrayal from a loved one will hurt.
2007-01-01 15:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has done something that has made you have doubts. You need to figure out if he has cheated or not. It bothers you because you are in love with him.
2007-01-01 15:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you are VERY open-minded.
Or you just don't really love him.
Or you have very low self esteem.
Please analyze yourself and the whole situation, and decide if you would like to continue being in a relationship where your partner shows no respect for you.
2007-01-01 15:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋