I've blown a few good opportunities to "make a move" -- not because I wasn't interested, but because I felt akward at the time, nervous, or didn't realize it was a good chance to be smooth. How long will a girl put up with a guy's ignorance? Maybe I should just walk up to her and lay one on her lips? Getting a woman is HARD.
2007-01-01 15:19:33 · 11 answers · asked by The Rainmaker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't chase guys but I'll wait a couple weeks to see if they make a move ... if not then I presume they aren't interested (which is their loss hahaha) and move on. As hard as it is, confidence is an attractive quality and making a move - like hello and would you like to go out for coffee etc. etc. is better to come sooner than later. Although I would caution against going up to someone and laying one on them as you never know the reaction you'll get - like a slap in the face. Too forward/aggressive and the girl's impression is that you are very presumptious about the kind of girl she is!
2007-01-01 15:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you really have to ask is is this relationship progressing to the point that it would lead to sex eventually. If you are just not ready yet, that's ok. It's been 10 months and probably have a pretty good idea already if you are ever going to have sex with him. If you don't think you will ever be ready to have sex with him let him know. Honestly he's probably getting teased by his friends about not having sex with you. But if you tell him that this relationship is moving in the direction to have sex and you are just not ready, and if you are giving him oral then he should be content to wait until you are ready. I think most guys if they are getting oral will wait around a pretty long time. If he doesn't wait then he wasn't the one to give your virginity to.
2016-05-23 04:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you still talk to this girl and she is still single then guess what you still have an opportunity to give it your best shot. Laying one on her may not be the best solution. There is never a good time to make a move. You just have to get a backbone and do it. Us ladies seem to put up with guys alot longer than they put up with us. So, as i said if you can do...... Good Luck
2007-01-01 15:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL- I find your question amusing! There is alot of truth to what you are saying, but you don't need to be smooth, just real! And I don't know about other ladies, but a real woman never chases , if he doesn't make his move he loses out! So I wouldn't wait too long! Just go for it! But forgo the lips, unless it's mutual moment in time kind of thing.
2007-01-01 15:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Aces 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how much the girl likes a guy. I had a silly situation. I crushed on a guy from fifth to seventh grade and a little over the summer. I got the guts to tell him I liked him and he literally crushed my feelings. He is now trying to ask me out. Girls are interesting people. We have a very intricate mind. As for me, probably a year or two. It also depends on the woman/girl.
2007-01-01 15:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't "chase". I'm 28 and don't have the interest in playing games. If I attempt to make a move and get nothing from him, I let it go and move on. The ball is in his court but I don't wait around.
You should just go up to her and ask her out if you want to see where things will go.
2007-01-01 15:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the girl. for me a month, if the guy shows intrest, but if he stops or just wont make a move, I move on. Why waste time on a guy if he dont know what he wants.
Well if you like somone then let them know. Ask them out on a date to the movies or a coffee shop, only kiss her if you KNOW she likes you in the same way. If you like a girl show her intrest, ask for her number, spend time with her, she'll get the picture.
2007-01-01 15:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would say it depends on how much i love this guy.
if i really love him and couldn't think about anything better, i would say about two or three months, but that depends how he is acting in that time.
he shouldn't miss too many chances the girl offers him cause then she might be thinking he just likes her as a good friend. start getting closer by yourself dont wait for the girl to do all that.
touch her hand, make her laugh and then it will happen.
good luck and hopefully shes waiting long enough so you get your chance!!
2007-01-01 15:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by silket23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Funny you should say that because we're petrified of getting a man ourselves. It's really hard when you spend all your days thinking about that one guy and he seems oblivious to all our hints and tip-offs. But I've learned that sitting around and waiting is a waste of time, so I just go straight up to them and let them know they're amazing or whatever. It's better than sitting there and wondering, isn't it? But we wouldn't have to go through all that embarrassment if you men did your part and asked us out!!
2007-01-01 15:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Valary 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'll make a Chart for You.
Cuteness: how long I'll stay interested.
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Total hottie: 6 months
Really good looking: 4 months
Pretty cute: 3 months.
Average: 2 1/2 months.
Not cute: 1 1/2 months
Unnatractive: 3 weeks
And of course personality is extremely important, but that's too complicated to make a chart about.
2007-01-01 15:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Dollface 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋