Split up with my ex about 3 years ago, but have never fallen out of love with her. I've missed her everyday. Been with a new girlfriend for the past two years and I love her, but we have lots of turmoil in the relationship and she often threatens to leave me. My ex showed up on my doorstep a few days ago and asked me to talk to her. She has moved into a nearby neighborhood and is single and doesn't want to date anyone for awhile. Nevertheless, she told me that she misses me and would like to be friends. She invited me to a party, but I declined since I'm in another relationship. I'm still very much in love with her, but I also care about current girlfriend and don't want to hurt her. The ex made it clear that she doesn't want to date anyone yet, but her attitude toward me indicated that I might have another chance with her someday. I can't stop thinking about her and am questioning the validity of my current relationship. If I could choose, I would be with ex again. What should I do?
2007-01-01 15:11:34 · 16 answers · asked by nn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are truly in love with your ex, you owe it to your current girlfriend to be honest with her and tell her how you feel. You can love two women, but only in love with one You need to make your choice, then take actions on whoever you choose. Good luck.
2007-01-01 15:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, there is a reason that she is ur "EX." It was something that happened for you two to end the relationship, and I would say that you should stay with your current girlfriend. Have you ever heard the saying "never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love?" Well this is similar to that. I feel you owe it to the girlfriend to stick it out with her because you have this long. Plus the ex says she doesn't want to date anyone else...maybe she just wants some sex from you!!! And you said someday...well why break up something good to wait for someday?! If I were you I wouldn't do it. Don't let anyone come between what you have. And if she is trying to come between what you have, then she isn't worth having because any "respectful" woman would not do anything like that!
2007-01-01 23:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from the last statement in your post " If I could chose, I would be with my ex again." it sounds as if your mind is pretty made up between the two of them and you are being unfair to the new girlfriend by being with her and feeling this way and having feelings and anything to do with the ex. You should let her go so that she can find someone to be with that totally and 100% wants to be with her and no one else. Then you can start having something to do with the ex again and see where that takes you. But don't string them both along. It's not fair.
2007-01-01 23:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by sarteaga1970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is hard. I would really think about this a lot before you make any big decisons. I guess I have a few ideas but I don't know if any of them are good...
-Write down what you like and hate about each girl down on a paper and see who has more things you like about them..
-Think about who you think makes you more happy
-Pray (if you believe in god)
-Maybe you could talk to them about what the future might hold for the two of you to see if they have the same goals in mind
-Maybe be friends with the x for awhile before you break up with your girlfriend. When you know someone for a long time before you get married you know who you are really comiting yourself to.
Sorry that probably didn't help you much but I tried. That must be hard. ps. Whatever you do don't cheat on your current girlfriend with the x.
2007-01-01 23:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by tina*21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you're in love with two people. Do you feel like a different person when you're around your ex than you are when you're around your current girlfriend? If so, you have to figure out which one is the real you.
PS- This sounds a lot like the Notebook. Ever seen it?
2007-01-01 23:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dollface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "If I could choose?" Is anyone stopping you from choosing? I mean it is your life and the last time I checked it is a free country, and you do have to right to choose which path you want your life to go down. I think that you should weigh your pros and cons with both women, then choose the one you are most happy with. No one can tell you who to choose, it is all on you dear. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 23:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ifr your girlfriend now is threatening you that she'll leave, you need to leave first. as i can see she does want to be with you anyway. all she is doing is trying to push you out the way to someone else. she's probably not even ready for a guy like you. what you need to do is go to your ex because both of you still have fellings for one another and need to be with each other. to me your best chance is to be with your ex girlfriend.
2007-01-01 23:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think u should do a couple of things
1. be upfront to ur ex about what u think shes sending u as signal
2. honestly examine do u really love ur girlfriend or do u ....just care for her so much..if hurting her is ur problem.then it will be worse if u dont love her and string her along
3. and act on ur answers..and feelings
Good Luck!! :D
2007-01-01 23:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by NotCliche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure you would prefer to be with your ex its not fair on you and your girlfriend to carry on the relationship, end it now and see what happens from there.
2007-01-01 23:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation with you.. but i'm in love with 2 guys.. basically it's unfair to both of them so i've decided i should stop loving both and try to move on.. it's hard and i haven't succeeded in doing that yet, but hopefully i will.
2007-01-01 23:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋