I used to go out with this guy a long time ago. I have no idea what has happened in his life. Do you think it would be alright to contact him even though I haven't spoke or seen him in 10 years? He was my first true love.
2007-01-01 15:07:19 · 41 answers · asked by myangelbarry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His wife or girlfriend wouldnt like it. Leave it alone.
2007-01-01 15:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you decide to contact him after this 10 year period, you must pursue the journey with an open mind. You may find him married now with family. You may find yourself seeing in his life all the things you could have had with him, if you had stayed together. That can be painful.
You must first ask, why you suddenly find yourself thinking about him now after all these years? Sometimes it feels safe and familiar to want to be with an old boyfriend.
Also think back to why the two of you broke up in the first place? Do you feel you or him may be different now?
I can only hope and wish for the best for you. I say go for it!
I hope this New Year brings you love and happiness!
2007-01-01 15:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always wondered about my first love and even tried looking up his address and phone once. About a year and a half ago I made contact with my childhood best friend. She was not the same person I remembered and loved during childhood. All the happy memories vanished as I discovered the person she had become. After this I quit trying to reconnect with my ex, sometimes its best to let the past be and cherish the happy memories that you have.
2007-01-01 15:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes wonder what happened to my ex-girlfriend. It's been 10 years since I last saw her, I wrote to her about 6 years ago and never heard a word from her. I was her first true love too.
2007-01-01 15:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go ahead. There is nothing wrong in contacting him. He may be married so be prepared. The man that I am now married to, we went together when we were teenagers and we did not see each other for 34 years. I was living in Georgia and he went to Ohio to see his mother. He went to see his cousin, who is a friend of mine. He started asking her about me. I received a letter from my girlfriend and she tells me that he still loved me after all those years.I cried when I found this out. I was already married to someone else but it never was a good marriage.When he found out that I was already married he almost cried. I got divorced a few years later. We started calling each other every day and wrote letters to each other. He drove to Georgia just to see me. We went to Ohio and we were married there.We have been married for 3 1/2 years now.We are now living in Georgia. So good luck and hope things work out the way that you want.
2007-01-01 15:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your reasons for wanting to reach him. If you are contacting him in hopes of rekindling something, be prepared for dissappointment. He could be married, involved, has changed beyond recognition, or just not interested. Amazing what happens to people in ten years, sometimes. Regardless, if you contact him with a "no expectations" attitude, I don't see a problem. Just make sure, if he is not as receptive to your inquiry as you are to inquire, you don't make a pest of yourself or disconnect from him on bad terms. Hope this helps! Good luck.
2007-01-01 15:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what you have going on in your life? If you have no significant other, then go for it. You'll never know until you try. There's nothing wrong with rekindeling an old flame as long as he is single. If you find out that he is in a relationship (good or bad) leave him alone. If it's meant to be then it will work itself out.
2007-01-01 15:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by ncscgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if you're in a current relationship. If so then it's not cool. If not its OK just remember he's not gonna be the same guy as befre. People change so dont expect anything. Even if old feelings come up which most definately will. Maintain yourself.
2007-01-01 15:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, I think it's ok to contact him. Maybe the 10 years allowed both of you to mature enough to revive that spark again and make it work this time. You never know until you take the first step.
2007-01-01 15:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say that you're calling all of your old friends that you haven't seen in a while to wish them Happy New Year, etc.
This way, if he turns out to be happily married with children, or something, your call sounds legit. If he's free and single, he'll let you know.
Good luck!
2007-01-01 15:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ya of course
although i have a feeling that you're not saying the whole story here, or else you'd know there is no problem.
It seems like you probably hurt him or vice versa and maybe a hard break up?
Because otherwise why would it be difficult
even IF it was hard or w/e did happen
its 10 years ago those wounds have healed.
2007-01-01 15:09:16 · answer #11 · answered by USCfemme10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋