Is it wrong of me to still be in love with my daughters father after all this time?
i mean everything was good when it was just us ..then we moved in with his mother..he put me out of the house while i was pregnant on labor day causing me to have our daughter a month early and then he was making dates with another women the whole time we were together..and now he has gotten with that gurl and she's claiming that he purposed to her..so is it ok for me to still be in love with him and should i fight to get him back..because he says he wants to be with me but i have to move back near him.. and that he wants to be apart of our daughters life and that he wants to get married ..he has finally moved out of his moms house and got his own place and is taking care of business... and has asked if he wanted to get back with me would i take him back? would it be so wrong to give him a second chance even if i set conditions with it?
2007-01-01 15:05:11 · 14 answers · asked by chellediva2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am married.. but a part of me will always love my first sons dad.. but he too cheated on me.. and now i have moved on.. and have a wonderful family it wasn't easy and there was times i was weak and thought and almost did take him back.. but then i realized that old saying the heart can play tricks on you.. now i only ove my x in a different way hard to put into words but its not like a lover or even best friend.. its he's part of a wonderful thing i call my son.. so in my oppinion use your head.. and keep in mind you can't change people no matter how much you wish or want to..
2007-01-01 15:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mikentab R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong to still be in love with the father of your child, he obviously played a very significant part in your life; however, I would not suggest taking him back on any conditions even if you set them. He set you out while you were pregnant! He is toying with your emotions! As much as it hurts and even though you still love him, make sure he does right by your child but don't let him back into your life.
2007-01-01 15:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by breezy_otay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if it wore me i would think of the child, do you think he would be a good father? if so i say go for it. but keep in mind, it might not be good, my father left for another woman when i was 2, and my mom had to take care of 5 children on her own, after a year, he asked her to come back. but my mom didn't, and we wore happy, i'm 13 now and i'm a happy enough purson with a step dad.
but also, i know it has left scars, knowing that my father aparently didn't love me enough to want me. but then i found out my mom had the choice to go back to him, and i havent really felt the same about my mother since. so really, it depends on how good of a father you think he'll make, and if he loves you. my father also said that he wanted us kids, but mostly just to show us off, and he owns a big computer compiony, and is head of lookingyourbest.com, so my life is alot like your daughters life will be like, (would you please e-mail me about what you decide to do? jenmatchmaker@yahoo.com.
2007-01-01 15:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by jenmatchmaker2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to answer that question yourself, you are the one who is going to live with him. He seems to be disrespectful and that's very, very ugly in a man. If you mean if you can forgive him I would say yes, but if he is still the same man, don't even think a about living with him again. He needs to get a real job, get out of his mothers house, mature and be a man. If he is unable to take responsibilities then forget him. If he is willing to do what he needs to do and you are willing to accept him know that it could happen again and that you and your kid are more important than been with him, although the kid needs his father.
2007-01-01 15:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say: Go for it.
You will never know what happens in the end.
If you've ever seen the Parent Trap, miracles like that happen.
So stop looking at the computer screen and go out there to take him back. If you really want to get these feeling out of your head and be in his arms, it's the right thing to do.
Wishing you the best on whatever choice you choose,
Amanda
2007-01-01 15:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your child's father so you will always love him, the way he treated you was not right, but if you still feel so strongly about him it may be worth giving it another try, you do have a child together .
2007-01-01 15:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby Daddys will always be special to you because you share a very special bond, a child, so you will always have some feelings for him, but it doesn't mean you guys will work out in a relationship.
2007-01-01 15:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sure, take him back but on your terms. He is the one that threw you out so if he really loved you he would do anything to be able to be a family with you again.
2007-01-01 15:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by doofynic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u feel that strong for him and he is sincere, go for it.
But if he is just using u to get out of paying child support , then forget it.
Listen to your heart.
2007-01-01 15:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from him. Unless you like being treated like S****. He hurt you so much and you're considering going back to him? Good luck.
2007-01-01 15:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋