Is spanking your child politlely on the hand ok?

Answer 1

I think it is ok, but you have to be careful who is watching. Things are always blown way out of proportion these days.

Answer 2

I raised four boys, two adopted and two natural......I did more than spank them on the hand.....Now before someone says omgosh......let me tell u three boys have served in Iraq...one recieved the bronze star.......the other two received other metals etc............I have one son who has not faired so well..... but all......every one of them.....thanks me for being a great mother. I even helped raised 3 stepkids even though their father and i are divorced I still talk to and see my stepkids........I believe that a child must be corrected. I hated to spank my kids........but what if my child is running to the road and a cars coming. Does my child respect me, fear me? Does he stop or keep going...if he keeps going do I politlely spank his hand......and say NO NO? Will that make him listen to me the next time..or do I spank his bottom and tell him "don't u ever do that again." NOt everything deserves a spanking and it should not be used for everything mistake the kid makes. In my opion spanking is ok with major infractions. Spanking on the hand can help a child learn not to touch something that may harm them or others. Anyway, I very seldlom ear someone say, "OH MY GOSH she spanked his hand, bad mother." However, I do hear, "Oh my gosh what a brat" I know people who hide when friends bring their kids over because they tear up everyones house. I worked at a Jr for 8 yrs and have listen to the teacher complain because a student did something really bad.......and when sent to the office the princle hands were tyed because the parents sd dont spank my child. A child should never be spanked or even scolded when a parent is mad.....it's to easy to say something mean or u could spank them to hard......so give it a min if u can and always remind ur child u love them...........spelling check is locked down so ill summit this anyway........but i cant spell

Answer 3

Of coarse it is ok. A mother and a child eventually find out the best discipline together. It's a process. What works now at one age may not work at a different age. Each child is different too. There are so many ways to discipline. A polite spanking on the hand is a common and respectful way to teach your child to not do something that could cause him/her injury, when words aren't understood.

You are not a mother that would use this to disrespect or abuse your child. You questioned this so that says alot about the mother that you are. You need to do what feels right for you and your child. A good mother is always safe with their instincts.

Answer 4

No it's not. It makes the child fear you. Do you want your child to be scared of you? They may even rebel against you when they get older.
My parents hit me physically when they were mad or mad at each other. When they were mad at something, they took out their anger on me.They pulled my ears, my dad kicked me, they spanked me, they yelled at me, and verbally abused me..I am not an adult and have not seen or talked to my dad in 4 years. I still have issues with my mom because she was so negative growing up and up until now she brings negativity when she visits me. My mom has been a nurse for over 35 years. Her job is to be caring to her patients. But when she is not working, there is another side to her.

The best way to discipline a child is to take away their priveleges Also, do not give them any sugar. Sugar makes children hyper and spoiled. So limit the sugar. If your child does something wrong you tell them, "Do not do that. It's wrong. How would you like it if someone took your toy away?"
If your child is getting on your nerves, go to a different room until you calm down. Do not ever take out your anger on a child.

Answer 5

Age old question that will not go away. I believe once you hit, even politely on the hand, you eventually have to up the ante because it loses its effect. Use repetition, diversion, explanation, and CUFF (consistent, understanding, fair, firm), rather than hitting. When what you want from them is clear, and they understand, they will listen. If not, have a swift clear alternative such as picking them up and moving them, taking away what they are after that is unacceptable and replace with something acceptable. Hitting teaches that might makes right and there is too much of that attitude rampant in society already.

Answer 6

If you use physical pain to get your child's attention does that tell them that sometime hitting is okay? They don't know the difference when they do it between lightly and hard.
And if they learn that you are only swatting will they ignore it until you make some real pain?
Better to avoid the physical. Give them a time out or talk them through it.

Answer 7

When I was younger my parents used to paddle me on the butt when I messed up. I hated them at the time for it, but it kept me in line and I am actually glad they did it looking back. So if it is done correctly and you make sure you let your child know you love them, than I would say that a slap on the hand is alright.

Answer 8

I agree with "tamar t" who said that it's not okay (or polite). A hand slap will not get their attention and I don't agree with hitting them on their bare skin. You need to find a healthier way of gaining the child's attention. It can be done, trust me. I have my own little terror who I'm very good at "controlling."

Answer 9

I don't think that the words "spanking" and "politely" really belong in the same sentence.

A slap on the hand, to my knowledge, has never killed or injured anyone.

Answer 10

Spankings should always be given on the bottom, but it's quite admirable to administer them politely

Answer 11

if you are in control, and you are consistant and minimal with the spanking... dont worry about anyone else's political opinion... you are the parent of the child and noone can tell you how to raise your child(ren) ,,, there have been times where a child was rude and obnoxious and not listening to their parents and the parent did nothing.. and there were times i have seen parents hit children to make themselves feel better ... which is more wrong?