Lately my daughter has been on a first-name kick. I'm now Tiff to her (what everyone calls me), her dad is James, my mom and mother-in-law are Cora and Kathy insteand of mammaw, My father-in-law and step dad are Don and Frank instead of Pappaw. The only two she doesn't do this to is her daddy's father and my dad. I've told her repeatedly that they are mammaw, pappaw and that I'm her mommy and james is her daddy. Could it be that she doesn't understand or that she is just trying my patience? Any help would be appreciated.
2007-01-01 14:57:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It seems like the only ones she calls by name other than her father and I are her biological grandmas and her(step)grandfathers.
2007-01-01 14:58:35 · update #1
She realizes you all have real names and it's so cool! Gently reminding my son was enough and he outgrew it pretty quickly. If he addressed me directly as Wendy, I'd just tell him I didn't hear him because my name is Mommy to him. He got the biggest kick out of calling my dad by his first name for a little bit too, and just stopped because we always refer to him as Grandpa so he went back to that too.
She understands, and I don't think she's trying your patience on purpose. I think she's just made a huge realization and it's too fun not to try out for a while.
2007-01-01 15:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through a stage like that with my now three year old son when he was two. My husband and I made it a point to call each other Mommy and Daddy around our son and just kept our little guy that "yes, my name is Air but you call me Mommy." The phase passed and now we're just mom and dad. Kids are so smart and curious about their worlds and your daughter has picked up that "Mom and Dad" are not called that by everyone. Remember that it is important that your daughter know your actual names, too.
2007-01-02 00:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All normal activities for this age. She is seeing you thru other peoples eyes and using the names they use for all of you. She is starting to understand that the world goes on when shes not there for instance. Let it go and she will return to Mom and Dan and Mammaw pappaw etc.
2007-01-01 15:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just being 2 1/2. She's just now realizing that people actually have real names, other than mommy and daddy, so it's just new to her. I'm sure she'll grow out of it, she's probably just getting a kick out of it for now. Just make sure that you tell her anytime she does it, the correct names she should be using. She shouldn't get in trouble for it though, she's too young to really understand.
2007-01-01 15:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to call people by the names you'd like her to use when she is present. She's probably just fascinated by the realization that mommy has a name other than mommy. I doubt she's trying to be rude or try your patience. It can be a bit confusing to kids at first, learning the difference between a title (like Mammaw) and a first name (like Cora).
2007-01-01 15:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Krista D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i say use time-outs, follow SuperNanny's naughty mat technique. Now you have 2 choices, you can use the time-out for the one who is name-calling, or for the one that is tattle-taling, pick 1 and stick with it. U need to either decide that names like poopy-head are not a big deal and discipline the one who is tattle-taling, whining, and trying to get his brother in trouble, or that you will not accept any name calling or sarcasm at all and discipline the one who uses the bad words. Hitting should always be an automatic time-out, regardless of whether the other 1 called him a name or not.
2016-05-23 04:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 yr old son does this still, I talk to my husband by name "Rob" and well my son started calling him by his name. My husband stopped answering to that when our son used that name and only responded when our son used Dad or daddy. It worked for the most part but the clincher of the deal was me!!! I had to start using dad or daddy around the kids, I couldn't use Rob around them as it seemed to encourage it for him. I am mom or mommy, and my husband doesn't call me by my name around the kids so they never have called me by my name so my suggestion is that stop using the given names for awhile and use the names you want to use just when it come to the grandparents I suggest that they have different names for each side so that there is a way for her to tell them apart otherwise she may just keep calling them by their given names just so she knows who is being talked about....you can be really amased at how smart little kids can be.
2007-01-01 15:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by lissame3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with other posters, ignore her unless she say 'mommy'. And make sure she knows the difference between your title and your name. If (God forbid) she ever gets lost in a store, "Tiff" will be much more helpful to the store employees than 'mommy'. Just something to think about.
2007-01-01 18:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by lilmuneca87 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed that all children do this. I have three, and over twenty nieces and nephews. At about this age they just start to notice that people are being called by their names instead of their titles. Believe me, she'll get tired of it, especially when they're sick or upset. It's Mommy they want then, not Tiffany.
2007-01-01 15:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by hmcreations2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son called me by my first name at about the same time, and when someone asked him why, he said "because that is her name". Makes sense to them - its what everyone calls people. Mommy is your position and your job, not your name after all! She will get over it, just ignore it, let her, and keep referring to people by what you want her to call them. In time she will. And if it bothers adults, it because they are not getting their power trip by being called by the title that makes them feel superior to a child.
2007-01-01 15:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋