this may sound strange to some but I am married with an adult child (20) who works & goes to college. Husb. works non stop. good provider but acts like an a$% most of the time to me. I have a job I love and work with people I adore and am thankful for that. I have a few good friends at work but I believe firmly in maintaining somewhat of a distance...I keep my home at home. My husb. owns a farm and has animals for awhile I was able to quell my loneliness by adopting his calves and taking care of them but it just doesn't get it anymore. I read my bible try to do whats right but am soooooo unhappy and lonely. On the outside, if you met me, you'd never ever know it. But its becoming harder and harder for me too "tamp down". Any ideas for overcoming this feeling? It's been with me for along time --ever since my mother died 6 yr. ago. I am the only girl with 3 older bro. Family split somewhat after my mother died. Any ideas out there for overcoming this??? Thanks in adavance.
2007-01-01 14:56:34 · 10 answers · asked by cindybd 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry that you are feeling down. I can only imagine how you must feel, so I hope this advice comes as a breath of fresh air and not another downer.
Now is the time to find what your passionate about. If it is Jesus, the arts, music, fitness, poetry. Explore every aspect. Give each new adventure a fair shake. You have nothing but time, so give each venture a month or whatever amount of time you think would be enough to get into it but not so much that it will become boring.
I think that therapy is a really nice luxury I have allowed myself to explore so that I can feel guilt free about letting go and talking out my frustrations with someone who has advice and I don't have to worry about dumping it on a friend. In therapy I learned that sometimes it helps to put the smile on and practice being the happy person you want to be. I use the motto "Fake it til you make it", You want to be a healthier eater, start now, fake it til you make it. You want to meditate, but you don't know how or you are not sure if you're doing it right, fake it til you make it. You will be doing the thing you want to do, while changing your thought process.
Good luck. You can do anything you put your mind too. Check out www.PlanetSark.com
2007-01-01 15:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Depon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you find ways to keep busy - hobbies or volunteer work? It helps to not focus on your own problems when you are helping others. You can see if there is a Nursing Home nearby where you can volunteer once or twice a week.
Keeping a journal also helps with loneliness. Or, you can try to find a priest or trusted counselor that you can talk to about your feelings.
2007-01-01 15:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If The friends at work are really your friends then they will listen to your problems! If you don't want the discussions taking up time on the clock, I suggest a meeting place outside of work, a place where you feel comfortable (your house) a TRUE friend will
have a shoulder to cry on!!! keep reading your BIBLE!!! Think about marriage counseling! if you have a church seek counseling there. Holding in these feelings in and stuffing them down will give you more room to pile more on top until they all come flooding out at an inappropriate time causing you to do something you will regret later!!! such as being unfaithful to your husband or becoming bitter towards him! Please try Talking to someone! those feelings will eat you up inside! don't stop praying!!! I'll keep you in my prayers!!!
2007-01-01 15:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by finderoflostsheep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ...Well find hobbies you enjoy doing rather it be arts and crafts, jogging, knitting, listening to music. Do you have Yahoo Instant Message ?? If you do I will be more then glad to talk to you. I know how loneliness is...it sucks and you sstart feeling so worthless. I met some cool people in chat rooms..but theres a chick I like but she gets feed up with me easily. Makes me feel lonelier..
Anywoo if you need or want to chat I'm here and will be willing to chat. .i'm on messenger now..
My names Kevin btw ...pleased too meet you.
contact me if you want.
2007-01-01 15:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear..My mother died after I stayed helping her for nine months till the cancer went to her brain.the I had a nervous breakdown.when your mother dies. it makes a person get that way sometimes.Your mother is your best friend.theres an attachment there, that when there gone you get lonely.I still cry and its been ten years.life changes.people change.we must change with life.smile and know that God is with you.trust and have faith in God and the Spirit of God.my brothers did me wrong after my parents died.but the Spirit of God is with me. and also with you.and we must continue on with love for our God.and for you. your family.praise God for everything.realize your blessings.perhaps get a pet. like a dog or cat you can love and be loved.that is with you in your home.perhaps take up painting.or some other hobby.You must also make sure you forgive anyone you hold something against.and go to church once a week.I will pray for your happiness and joy in living tonight. I hope you have a Great New Year.
2007-01-01 15:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem stems from your mothers death,
I lost my mother almost 3 years ago and still feel very lonely.
Only time will help, keep busy and "Talk" to your mother.
It helps me because i believe she is with me. and hears me.
Missing a loved one is normal and takes a good deal of time getting over the fact they are no longer there physically. But knowing they are with you in spirit is a great comfort.
2007-01-01 15:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to reconnect with your brothers. If that doesn't help go to a grief counseling thingy. Good luck. Wish you the best.
2007-01-01 15:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by *=D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im sorry :(
perhaps try to connect with your brothers, and have your child round as much as possible. find a hobby, like painting or learn to play a musical instrument. keep busy, and try to join any clubs in your town that might have like minded people. or perhaps try to make friends with your neighbours.
good luck :)
2007-01-02 04:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Hihowareyouhello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping a journal offline or online is a good idea as well as if you wishing finding new friends (good ones) or penpals. Volunteering is good too. What what you want to do your life that is meaningful?
2007-01-01 15:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play on Yahoo Answers .... LOL
2007-01-01 15:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋