I have this cousin. I'm really worried about her....now she talks about committing suicide and stuff like that. She says she wants to die and that she hate's her life. Sometimes she talks about how no one would care if she died. How do I make her see that I'd care...that we'd cared? How can I help her? She also talks about how she's ugly and stuff like that. How do help her self-esteem? I really want to help her some days I'm scared we'll lose her. Her mom doesn't see any of this she blames her mood swings on being a teenager or she blames us saying we pissed her off, but it isnt like that. Any suggestions?
2007-01-01 14:36:15 · 13 answers · asked by Narrator by music 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
look into the bible. let her know that god ALWAYS cares. suicide is never the answer.
2007-01-01 14:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by MW saved my life. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A primary care physician can rule out any medical issues causing the symptoms. If you really think she is suicidal, and it sounds like you do, she needs help asap. You can call a suicidal hotline for assistance. I honestly don't know how effective that is, and they probably want to keep their lines open for the most urgent cases, but you have to start somewhere. Even if this is a ploy for attention, she may very well attempt to hurt herself or worse. Take it seriously.
2007-01-01 22:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by sophia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i still think about being suicidal and i think i am ugly i know wat she is going through. It is a really really tough time in her life right now probably. On her self-esteem just like complement her maybe go shopping and pick out fun clothes and try them on and just laugh and that will also help her know u care. Also just like call her and talk to her as much as u can and just talk about how she feels and wat is making her mad and just always try to help her laugh and think of great memories. She might still think about it but just be there to comfort her and let her know that if she every needs to just talk or she is about to hurt herself just tell her to call u and just let her do alot of talking and try to answer her questions because she also just wants ppl to focus on her some what and on her problems sometimes just like everyone else in the world. Hopefully this works but the main thing is just try to talk to her and make her laugh!
2007-01-01 22:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the movie MASH, when one of the characters was contemplating suicide, all his friends got together and held a mock funeral, complete with casket, wake, mourning, and all of them singing "Suicide is Painless", the theme from MASH. You could try something like that. But if you think it's real serious, get her to see a counselor. If her mom is like you say she is, try to convince her that atleast a trip to counselor would prove that it's nothing serious.
2007-01-01 22:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up suicide help line.. on the internet its anonymous and also free..they will talk to her and possibly put her in touch with free counciling in her area.. I remember as a teenager lot of teenagers felt this way..Its the changes that are hard and growing up its sometimes harder for some to adjust to..so look for suicide hotline and ask her to do you a favor and call and talk to them
2007-01-01 22:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon to see this in a teenager......the transition
from childhood to adulthood is not easy. Teens go thru stages.
What you are describing is very common.
You never know if they are saying this because they mean it,
or they are just seeking attention. Nevertheless, you should
have her parents invoved. If you know her parents, perhaps you
should let them know what she is saying....if they are smart parents they will consider talking to her and seeking professional attention.
She might be suffering from depresion.......who knows...
That's what I'd do.. You can't help her....She needs
professional help and her parents need to get involved in this
process.
2007-01-01 22:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by miriam8676@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin needs to speak to a trained therapist right away. If her mother won't listen to your concerns, go to another adult that will your own parents, someone from church, or perhaps a teacher or counsler from school.
2007-01-01 22:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by jakimmi72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem!!
2007-01-01 22:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs help u can go to a counselor at school or contact a suicide hot line. u don't want it to be to later for u to stop it. u need to even speak to your mom she may be able to help
2007-01-01 22:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to convince her to see a therapist. I f she really is thinking about commiting , you need to tell someone now, don't wait!
2007-01-01 22:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by pollywollydoda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do for this cousin is be a great friend to her/him and maybe have a party with all of her/his family and pay attention to her cries for attention/help/ and suicide
2007-01-01 22:50:25 · answer #11 · answered by fish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋