im in love nd relly want 2 get married 2 the guy i love but im only 16 how can we get married wat do we hav2do

Question

ive been going out with my bf 4 a while and i no wat im doing so im 16 and really want to get married more than ne thing please tell me excacly what i have to do 2 get married i no excacly what im getting my self in i no how old i am and no i might sound silly but we r in love and i have the dress and the ring just need to no how to get married and what i have to do 2 get married please tell me

i have been living with him for a while now as well i no what it is like so please help

Answer 1

you have to have the consent of both your parents so they can sign a permission for you to get married, but it depends in wich state you are living

Answer 2

Keep living with him.
After a few years Austalian law accepts it as a defacto relationship and it has almost the same recognition as marriage.
If you are still with him in a couple of years time you willl know you were right and then you can get married.
Have patience with life and accept the things you can't change.
Love doesn't need a little piece of paper to give it legitimacy.
Also, (and this bit's very important), tell him that you love him.
Often. Nearly every day.

Answer 3

I'm only three years older than you so I'm not some old person preaching to you. First off you really don't need to get married that young. I suggest you wait. I know you say you really love him and he loves you but if he really loves you he's not going anywhere. So at least wait until you're 18 and then you can decide to get married then. Secondly, most young marriages don't last. Statistics show that!

Answer 4

Generally, you either need to be 18 or have parental consent in order to get married. This you would need to take down to the court house and get a marriage license.

That being said, I would also recommend premarital counseling. Not just because you're young, but for ANYone wanting to get married.

Next, you need to consider how you are going to finish your schooling. In today's society, you are not going anywhere without at least a high school diploma and some trade school/tech school training. Figure on this taking AT LEAST two years past high school graduation, depending on the field that you wish to go into. Take a look at the costs of colleges and tech schools in your area, as well as what the housing is around these schools.

Also, you need to seriously consider how you are going to live on your own once you are married. If you plan on still living with parents, then forget it -- you're obviously not ready to be married and shouldn't even be thinking about it. Do some research, talk to your parents and other adults that you know and find out the cost of living in your area. Plan out a budget, figure out your expenses, and figure out how you are going to live off of whatever income you make. Don't forget to factor in health insurance, renter's insurance, car payments, utilities, and gas money.

Another thing that you seriously need to look at is birth control. Since you will probably not be able to afford to have a child for a few years (at least until one of you is out of college, I would hope?), you need to find some way to ensure that a pregnancy does not occur. Do some research, figure out the costs, weigh the risks and the benefits of each, and talk to a gyno.

Another very important factor is your families. Are they supportive of your choice? DO NOT expect to be able to rely on them for money or housing. This is immature and childish. You need to be able to make it on your own, and yet you should also have their blessing. If you are doing this against their will, then you run the risk of alienating yourself from your support network. Support networks are very important, as they help you pick yourself up if you fall down. Don't disown your family for the sake of getting married RIGHT NOW.


Finally, it is okay to consider other options. I'm not going to sit here and tell you that you shouldn't get married or insult your intelligence by telling you that you're too young and have no idea what you're doing (although that very well may be the case!). I will tell you, however, that I was a full-time student still (in college) when I got married, and it is NOT for everyone! I didn't participate in a lot of the on-campus activities that are part of the college experience, and I had a lot more responsibilities than my peers. That often meant longer nights staying up to get homework done, a longer commute to school, and having to prioritize in order to get everything done on time and done well.
Consider waiting. True love waits, and if you two are really meant to be together, you can spend the next few years just enjoying the courtship without the stress of rent payments, pregnancy scares, loans, and other "grown-up" things that go along with being married.
Good luck

Answer 5

Ok really there isn't anything u really can do. In order to get married any where in the US u have to be at least 18 but I say if u go to las vegas u probably wold get married. Now im not saying that it is good but I know how I was when I was your age. Just really think about what u are getting yourself into. I know u said that you've though about it but really think about it. He's probably goin to want kids, go would have to take care of the baby, get a job, alot more than your mind that. So i say really really think about this.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

ummm what about your parents? are they ok w/ this??? plus how old is he???? I'm not exactly sure what you have to do to get married but probably a lot of paper work and since your under 18 your parents approval. Also i bet in some way you might be able to get married you never know.

Answer 8

I dated someone for 3 years...and just when you think everything is fine, its over. In my opinion, you should wait atleast a few more years. But! if you must get married, according to what state you live in, you are probably going to need both parents signatures.

Answer 9

It sounds like you know it all ,and you got everything under control
You just forgot you need one of your parent to sign the paper to allow you to do such a crazy thing .
hope you finish school ,and wait 2 more yrs ,wha'ts the rush?
its not like you pregnant?Are you and forgot to mention

Answer 10

Problem is that you are a minor.

Ask an attorney. I don't think it's legal anywhere, but I might be wrong.