I am 21 and I am so lonely and depressed. I wish I could find someone to have a relationship with. My biggest problem is that I am really insecure about my size (if you know what I mean). I can never talk to girls because of this insecurity. Is size really that important. I'm told I'm attractive, funny, smart, kind. Do none of these qualities matter, because of my size? Is it possible for me to find someone who will love me, or should I just give up?
2007-01-01 14:23:51 · 35 answers · asked by John S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you so much to everyone who answered my question. You all gave me hope and a boost of confidence. Thank you so much. You really don't even know what it means to me.
2007-01-01 14:57:26 · update #1
Thank you so much to everyone who answered my question. You all gave me hope and a boost of confidence. Thank you so much. You really don't even know what it means to me.
2007-01-01 14:58:44 · update #2
First you have to love yourself before anyone one else can, and second why would you want to date someone who is only with you because of what is on the outside. Lastly, Find a good counselor to help you with your depression and self esteem. When your happy on the inside, it'll show on the outside.
2007-01-01 15:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all never give up. And second of all no size does not matter and if you find a girl that says it does then she is not good enough for you. The qualities that do matter are the one that you say you have because this is what the girl sees when she meets you and she gets to know you and eventually fall in love with you. Your size should be the last thing that matters. If the girl you find loves you if won't matter to her. Take it easy on yourself your young and you will find the right girl trust me.
2007-01-01 14:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Moni0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is someone out there for everyone. You're only 21 so you have a life ahead of you. I know that if I met a guy who was not "ideal" but he was funny and sweet like people say you are, just keep on trying and besides, nobody is perfect and if you think that everyone is out there looking for the perfect person then you're wrong because if they're smart enough then they'll look for a person like you. And think about it this way...when people get old, they most often dont look as cute as they used too, but if they got married for true love, then it was for love and not for looks. Dont stress, someone will come along..keep your eyes and your heart open. I really hope that you find the right person. Good luck =)
2007-01-01 14:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by rebel_without 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you stop looking it will happen. You need to find time to work on your confidence, etc. Once you feel good and confident about yourself you fill become MORE attractive b/c women find confident men attractive!!! Size does not matter! You need to find someone that loves you for who you are and the sex part will come later. You are still young and have an entire lifetime ahead of you. I don't know why you feel like you have to be rushed to find someone! Take it one day at a time, work on yourself and you will be MORE attractive and attract the RIGHT kind of women!!! Good luck
2007-01-01 14:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by ilovechocolate75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your size, you didn't describe to us. But if you were told you are attractive. Your size shouldn't be a big problem for you. If you are not comfortable with your size, do something about it. Join the membership of gym club, eat healthy and do exercise. Be confident and think positive, it will make you look more attractive and happier. Besides the looks, personality also count to attract the girls.
2007-01-01 14:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that there is someone out there for everyone. There are thousands of women who love big men, some of them are like big teddy bears I call them. What you need is self love and confidence that you could possibly be the best man in someones life. The confidence shines, no matter how big you are. As long as you are well groomed and confident, you will not be alone for long. It really works!
2007-01-01 14:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
In my opinion,I believe anyone, man or woman should learn to love & respect theirself (first) if you do that, you are bound to find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with,because others do pick up on your insecurities,just be yourself & never try to be something your not..as for size,it doesn't really matter..whether you mean body size or private parts size,if you just try your best, to be a nice & caring person,it'll all come together nicely..
2007-01-01 14:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by daffodilllady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, for pete's sake, don't give up, man!
everyone will have their opinions on what THEY think about size, but it's all a matter of how you "use" it!!
guys of the lesser size need to be more creative in finding ways to perform for their ladies....BUT, just don't let that get to your head, though (the head between your shoulders)
don't be insecure. everything about you and your characteristics mean something, too. don't let what other people say or do to you, get the best of you.
everyone is unique in their own way, and you need to embrace this!
learn to love yourself for who you are, because there's only ONE of you in the world, and making friends is a good thing.
when the time is right, the right gal will come along.
everything happens for a reason, and in your case, it may be to teach you how to be more creative, and use that in your favor.
don't give up, though....
2007-01-01 14:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you focus more on your personality qualities and not your insecurity with your "size", you should have no problems finding a girl.
Start slowly, talk to girls to get to know them, it's not their business to know your size. Believe me, a nice guy is worth a lot more than a few inches.
2007-01-01 14:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. and YES the other qualities matter, actually they are the ones that keep a relationship strong. Speaking for myself, i do not think size matters but what matters is how you use what you have to please her. I know there are girls that think size matters. so don't give up one day you will find a girl who will appreciate everything about you. It seems you have not even tried to find someone.
Keep your head up.
2007-01-01 14:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋